leathersfamily Posted July 30, 2009 Report Share Posted July 30, 2009 Still breathlessly waiting! Today is 3 weeks since we mailed in the application, and a phone call revealed that we are "pending!" Pending is good! I can handle pending! Thank you all for welcoming us so warmly! Hopefully we'll hear something in a week or two and know if we can take that next step! Rebecca and Corey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erin and Mark Posted July 30, 2009 Report Share Posted July 30, 2009 Good for you. Hopefully things will work out for you. Mark Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jan and Greg Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 Still breathlessly waiting! Today is 3 weeks since we mailed in the application, and a phone call revealed that we are "pending!" Pending is good! I can handle pending! Thank you all for welcoming us so warmly! Hopefully we'll hear something in a week or two and know if we can take that next step! Rebecca and Corey That is great news!!! Jan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dbernados Posted August 24, 2009 Report Share Posted August 24, 2009 Welcome Corey & Rebecca to the Forum! This is definitely a place that you will go to often for answers to the many questions you might have along the way. It is a great community of caring, loving people who know exactly how you feel. I wish you the best and can't wait to follow your journey. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
julieandjonathan Posted August 24, 2009 Report Share Posted August 24, 2009 Welcome to the Forum, Corey and Rebecca! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leathersfamily Posted September 4, 2009 Report Share Posted September 4, 2009 We want to say THANK YOU! to all of you for your positive energy! Corey and I got the packet about a week and a half ago and are working diligently to gather all of our information and answer the essay questions! We have gotten sidetracked by home renovations (part of our "getting ready for baby") but hope to mail it in next week. GOD BLESS YOU ALL! Have a great weekend! Corey and Rebecca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dbernados Posted September 5, 2009 Report Share Posted September 5, 2009 Good luck with the home renovations..you definitely need to get that type of stuff done now because once the baby comes home there is NO time. And if there is time all you want to do is sleep. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smithgonefishin Posted September 5, 2009 Report Share Posted September 5, 2009 Welcome Leathers Family!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TnTaylors Posted September 10, 2009 Report Share Posted September 10, 2009 A big welcome to Abrazo. We are "Parents In Waiting" and we are from the Cordova, Tn area. There is a wonderful group of Adoptive Parents in Tn. We have made many friends and have received so much encouragement from them and from the Forum Family. The Forum is a wonderful place............ Teresa and Ric Taylor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MichelleH Posted September 15, 2009 Report Share Posted September 15, 2009 Hi all!! My husband and I will be ready to start the homestudy/financial process after Christmas. Any advice on when we should send in our initial application? We live in Texas and are really excited about becoming part of the Abrazo family!! Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dbernados Posted September 15, 2009 Report Share Posted September 15, 2009 Michelle, Welcome! Welcome! I would go ahead and send in the initial application so that is one less thing you have to do. They will then let you know when the next orientation weekend is so you can prepare for that. That weekend is a blast!! And one that you will never forget! There is a lot of information everywhere in the forum so if you have questions they are probably already answered or you can ask one of us oldies. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MichelleH Posted September 15, 2009 Report Share Posted September 15, 2009 Donna: Thank you so much for your encouraging words. We are very excited about starting the process but are waiting for some direction on when to cut off infertility treatments. Adoption is part of our plan with/without infertility issues but it's a matter of when. I hope I am not alone in this thinking. We want to make the best decision for us and our future child/BP. Does Abrazo prefer a certain amount of waiting time between ending fertility treatments and acceptance into the Full Service Program? We definitely have documented infertility issues. Thanks again for all of your help. If anyone else wants to chime in that would be great too!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dbernados Posted September 15, 2009 Report Share Posted September 15, 2009 Michelle, Correct me if I am wrong, Elizabeth but I think the biggest thing is to make sure that you have resolved all of the feelings of wanting/desiring to be pregnant, having a biological child, are you really done with infertility treatments,etc... before you move forward with Abrazo. If I am not mistaken (it has been several years since we filled out the initial paperwork) they want you to have closure on that so you can move ahead with accepting a child that may not look like you or have your DNA. Does that make sense? My husband and I took several years off after our last procedure but when we came back to the drawing board it didn't matter to us if our child(ren) had our DNA or looked like either one of us and so on. And I might say that our kids are more beautiful than if we had given birth to them ourselves. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen&Bernie Posted September 15, 2009 Report Share Posted September 15, 2009 Donna did a good job of touching on the emotional resolvement of moving from infertility treatments to adoption. If you already have your mind on adoption, you are part of the way there. You may also want to check out the book "Adopting After Infertility" by Patricia Irwin Johnston. We had only a short time between ending treatments and starting the adoption process, because we too already had adoption on our minds. Unfortunately our first eight months was with the wrong agency. Then we found Abrazo! Best wishes to you Michelle! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ElizabethAnn Posted September 15, 2009 Report Share Posted September 15, 2009 Generally, Abrazo's couples must be at least six months past the final cessation of fertility treatment efforts before attending orientation... that way, they've had time to be sure they're done with the quest to produce a biological child, and they've had time to grieve these losses before taking on the new losses that are typically encountered while riding the adoption rollercoaster. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pam Posted January 4, 2010 Report Share Posted January 4, 2010 Hi, I have not posted in quite a while. My husband and I have ended our fertility treatments now and plan to adopt. We are waiting on a return call from a representative to ask the final questions that we have regarding the Abrazo Agency. As I have mentioned in previous posts, we were referred to your agency from some friends who have adopted with you and have all good things to say. I had a question regarding infertility. After 4 years of trying to conceive we have done multiple IUI, IVF and had 2 miscarriages. We have ended this for now. However we may in the future (2-3 years) want to try IVF again and we have considered getting on the embryo donation waiting list with our GYN. Would we still be accepted with Abrazo with this or do you have to end fertility treatments with the intention of never trying to conceive again. Thanks for your help. Just trying to collect some information before sending in the inquiry. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stork Central Posted January 4, 2010 Report Share Posted January 4, 2010 Thank you for your continued interest in Abrazo. Please note: our full-service placement program is intended for those who have confirmed infertility and thus have no known alternative means of becoming parents except through adoption. The birthparents with whom we work generally choose the adopting parents they do because they wish to entrust their child to a couple who can never have children biologically. If you are capable of pursuing future pregnancies (whether through IVF, embryo donation or other means), then the programs available to you at Abrazo would instead be the designated program or the special needs program, either of which do allow those capable of achieving future pregnancies to qualify. As a private, nonprofit agency, we receive hundreds of requests for information from potential adopters per week, so we necessarily devote our limited budget for returned- call toll expenses to those with paperwork already on file. Please feel free to call back during business hours, should you have additional questions for our Family Services department or if you wish to speak with a representative. Thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erin Posted February 12, 2010 Report Share Posted February 12, 2010 We placed our inquiry in the mailbox today! Last night we had a little celebration dinner at an Italian restaurant. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melanie Posted February 12, 2010 Report Share Posted February 12, 2010 Congratulations, Erin on taking that first step to your next journey!! Hugs to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hkingkong Posted February 12, 2010 Report Share Posted February 12, 2010 Congrats! I thought you were already actively waiting for a child. Italian is my favorite! Heather Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erin Posted February 12, 2010 Report Share Posted February 12, 2010 Thanks, Melanie and Heather! We asked our daughter if she would like to have a little brother or a little sister, and she said "a brother AND a sister. I play Snoopy with a brother and ponies with a sister." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DPJ Posted February 12, 2010 Report Share Posted February 12, 2010 Way to go Erin!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steven&Melissa Posted February 21, 2010 Report Share Posted February 21, 2010 (edited) Hi, everyone! My husband Steven and I live in Memphis, TN and mailed in our inquiry on 2/18, so we're just waiting patiently to see if we can move on to the next step! We're learning so much from the forum in the meantime and are so thankful that everyone is so open so that we have the opportunity to learn while we wait. Edited February 21, 2010 by Steven&Melissa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hkingkong Posted February 21, 2010 Report Share Posted February 21, 2010 Welcome to the group!!! You will have a great support group in Memphis. Heather Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Everleigh Posted February 22, 2010 Report Share Posted February 22, 2010 Does anybody know if it is necessary to own your home vs. renting? My husband and I currently own our home in a suburb, but he got a new job in the city. We were thinking of putting our house on the market so we could move closer to his job and therefore he would get home earlier. I just have fears that renting wouldn't be accepted by the agency or the birth mothers? I have no idea??? Any advice would be very helpful!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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