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If that were the case, why do milk banks exist?

Here's a brand-new, just-went-live compendium of resources from the most excellent Creating a Family site: http://www.creatingafamily.org/adoption-resources/breastfeeding-the-adopted-child.html In specific reply to Suzi's post above, I quote:

Because, in the distant and unforeseeable future, someone might read this thread, and I may not be able to respond to them personally, I want to address Evelyn's concerns (who, by the way, seems to have the MOST enlightened husband EVER.) The lack of ability to plan for an adoption is the cause of a vast deal of anxiety - how to arrange for your nursery, your parental leave, your travel plans are just a few that come to mind - but that does not stop you from adopting, and neither should it prevent you from nursing your child if that is something that you are interested in and motivated to do. It is **ideal**, as with much of parenting, to have more time to plan, but it is not necessary. You CAN **easily** induce lactation with less than 6 weeks notice, and there is NO reason not to begin the protocol when a BOG is placed with you. In that BLESSED case, your child might only have donor milk (or formula) by supplemental nursing system during those first six weeks, but that is only a small fraction of their lives and shouldn't be an obstacle to an otherwise miraculous endeavor. As for Evelyn's last point, (taking for granted the fact that frozen breastmilk is still vastly superior to formula) I believe her friend's point was that you could induce lactation and, if you started pumping BEFORE your child was placed with you, perhaps because of a disappointed placement, you could simply pump for the weeks/months until your child finds you - storing that breastmilk for the times when your little one needs more than you are producing, during a growth spurt perhaps. If many months passed between the disappointment and your placement, you could even choose to donate the milk to another mother who is in need. The months of pumping would not be in vain, of course, as you would have a full supply and be ready to nourish your child body, mind, and spirit. Planning the timing of inducing lactation is stressful, no question about it, but it is truly of little consequence compared to the profound joy and deep satisfaction of settling your precious and long-awaited infant to your breast. If such an experience appeals to you, I heartfully encourage you to find the information and support to make the attempt. It is out there if you seek it.

I don't post much, but it seems to me that church should return the funds.

I haven't posted on the Forum for almost two years, since I was having a really difficult time with our adoption journey. Based on my Forum postings, Shelley took it on herself to find our phone number and call me. She gave me an hour or so of her time, lifting my spirits and assuring me that all would work out if we stuck with it. She was right, of course. I just want to attest to her kindness, consideration, and wisdom. Best, Kay

Trying again: http://www.heartfeltadoption.com/newbabies.htm It sure looks real to me.

I'm not quite sure where to put this, but I'm FLABBERGASTED by the language on this facilitator's homepage: http://www.heartfeltadoption.com/newbabies.htm. I cringe at the use of "available" to refer to "birthmothers" who haven't placed yet, but I my jaw just dropped at this: Editing to add this:

Did you see this, Heidi? Black Rabbi Reaches Out to Mainstream of His Faith After reading this fascinating article, I was further impressed to learn that he is Michelle Obama's cousin. Best, Kay

Congratulations!!!! What a wonderful day. I'm so happy for the relationships you have with your children's birthfamilies. Best, Kay

Hoorah for Michelle and Jeff and the courageous people who made them parents! Enjoy this special time. Best, Kay

Dearest Wendy and Jason, We couldn't be happier for you, and we're sending all our hopes for peace and comfort to your dear friend. I can't wait to hear his name and see a picture! Best, Kay

Also, you might want to talk to Angela before you go through the trouble and expense of updating your homestudy. Texas law has a requirement that it be updated within 30 days of placement, so it might be better to wait. I don't know all the details, but Angela will! Best, Kay

Hi Hot Mamma, It's so good to see you here and to hear your thoughts on Juno. We really appreciate your perspective. I hope you post more!!! Best, Kay

I'm so sorry that I missed this announcement in real time, but I've been working non-stop for 24 hours and away from a computer. However, it doesn't diminish my absolute joy for my dear dear friends, Jennifer and Steve, big brother Leon, and their very very special friend. I hope that this is a time of comfort and joy for all of you. Please know you are in my heart, even when I am away. Happy happy day! Best, Kay

Congratulations! What a wonderful blessing for all involved. Best, Kay