Hey Lisa, I just wanted to tell you about our expierence the second time around. As you know we have a son (Dylan) who is 8 and Brenli is now 1. Dylan's birthmother passed away 2 years ago in April and the hardest thing for me with our very open adoption with Brenli's birth family is Dylan. He once told me he didn't want Brenli's birthmom to visit anymore because he gets sad that he can't see his birthmom. I just told him that wouldn't be fare to Brenli and told him that Brenli's birthfamily love him very much too. Lisa (birth grandmother) wrote Dylan a letter asking him to adopt her as his mammaw as well. This way he and Brenli both call her mammaw. It has helped so much. I think Dylan thinks of Lauren(Brenli's BP) as a big sister. Dylan has not expressed anymore concerns since that one time. I still get sad when I think of the relationship I will never have with Dylan's BP. I miss her so much, I can't imagine how it would be to know she is alive and not be able to share all the wonderful things about her child as you do with Kaleigh. The second time around is alot different. Elizabeth always told me it would be and she was right(as usual). I am so grateful for Brenli's birth family they mean so much to us. Good luck.