This forum is starting to show up in my personal life! I am working on my Master's degree and a recent assignment required us to come up with a conflict that we felt we had strong feelings about. I chose closed adoption vs open adoption. (Since I have one of each in my family.) The assignments were posted online and we each analyzed and commented on everyone's assignments. I could not believe the comments made (that posters intended to be supportive)! "Bad situation should remain secret until the age of consent", "search for real parents when old enough". Sheesh! I did something totally out of character (thanks, Tina, I think the courage came from reading your posts). I jumped on my open adoption soapbox and wrote a narrative. Just posting it made my hands shake. It will be interesting to see the next set of responses.