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  1. Ok I will contact them and let them know, see if they are ready yet. I do however know of a family that has a child already (3 yrs old) that might also be interested if she relaxation her stance on childless at all. They live in state. P.s.just reread my post. It wasn't supposed to be why do they have to live ib Texas...just do they have to live in Texas. I know why they would prefer that. Lol. I hate touchscreen and fat fingers.
  2. Too bad it's childless... ah well. I might know of someone though -why do they have to live in Texas?
  3. This makes me sad for Sandra because she obviously didn't know what was going on. It's not like the baby came after everything came out for her. The baby came before, and I can't imagine the heartbreak of having to hand a baby back after all she's been through. I love that she is going to adopt him as a single parent. It can work, and I hope it does. I don't see any fraud in her since she didn't know about it and many people hold dark secrets. If she had been pregnant we all would do nothing but be terribly sad for her. I think even the best homestudy worker can't be expected to get every secr
  4. Congratulations x 2! What fun!! Boy BLUE is really in season this year!
  5. Yeah I bet that's it, different counties, different rules maybe. I don't think many adoptions are usually done right at the 6 month mark, but most get finalized between 6 - 8 months based on my lawyer here anyways. Good to know I've always wondered why that is different. Ah well, like I said, all is well that ends well I guess! And I'd say my ending was pretty darn awesome.
  6. Elizabeth - I guess what I don't understand then is how my other agency, Buckner, most if not all of their adoptions are right at 6 months and the lawyer we used said we could basically schedule it for 6 months on the dot if we wanted! They are in Texas too so I wonder what the difference is? Other agencies I have heard also say they finalized in Texas right during the 6th month. Not that I can complain as I am pretty happy with the process also, I just wondered if their was a difference in the way filing happens?
  7. Oh wow, I actually didn't know that! I am sure it was on my fee schedule but things were a bit "hectic" at the time. I do wish M had taken you up on that though. Not because i think she needs counseling but because I think it could have given her a healthy outlet and helped her put her thoughts together. Thanks for the info! One more thing - On the how it effects our family question I took it different I think than the question meant. Having contact changes EVERYTHING about our family versus if we didn't have contact. I can't imagine our family without M or M&N. After having a visit it'
  8. 1) Where are you from? Dallas, Texas 2) Is there an Abrazo alumni group in your area that gathers once a year or more, and do you participate? Yes there are families here that we keep in touch with 3) How many adoptions have you completed through Abrazo? One 4) Is your family finished, or is there room for more? If so, how many more in your opinion (spouse's input aside, ha!) We definitely want one more, but we both really feel in our hearts that we are ready for a girl this next time (funny because I NEVER thought I'd gender specify but I feel a calling on this one). 5) What is (or wa
  9. Congrats!! What a beautiful Christmas surprise!!
  10. No we probably will not be in this group this spring, but stranger things have happened! LOL!!
  11. Why while reading that was the Mission:Impossible song going in my head? LOL!! I think this sounds like a lot of fun and can't wait to see how it plays out!
  12. I do agree very much Karen - I have to find a way to accept the usage of the word. I had to do this with many things, people calling thier birthparents mom and dad, to people saying adoption is unnatural. It's hard at first but then you grow to appreciate and it doesn't hurt so much anymore when people say these things. I actually feel that way about mom and dad. I think I'd cringe less if people called M or N Mom vs Natural Parent. I'm not sure why that is? Maybe it's as you say - I'm seeing it as saying we are un-natural and I need to do some soul searching and tell myself that's not reall
  13. I agree, in the end it's about whatever you are most comfortable with. I just believe the first and most foremost opinion should be the child's. I personally don't really like nurtural either. I don't know, it makes me feel more like I'm a foster parent than just mom. I just can't imagine saying "natural mom" to my son without a big slap in the face reminder than I am not his "NATURAL" mom and that adoption is so very "unnatural". That really isn't needed IMO, where first parent you are honoring thier role in your child's lives, even birth parent...I guess I don't understand how birth parent a
  14. While I appreciate honest adoption language, this is about the child. Adoption is about the child, and the fact that they were once adopted...we can't make that out to be negative and I think honest adoption language is doing just that. There is a line between honest and hurt. I don't think that using some of those words are any more honest than the positive adoption language, and with positive we are telling the child that it's positive (wether or not the adoption was a negative experience or not for the birth parent, we still owe it to the child to make it out to be positive as much as we c
  15. It's so sad, and I will say big prayers for the family. What a horrible loss...
  16. CONGRATULATIONS NORA!!!! I hope to see you and the precious baby girl soon!!!
  17. Congratulations to all!! Whew what a week!! God is so good!
  18. CONGRATULATIONS, TARA AND ERIC!!! YAHOO!!! I'm so excited for you, and you are both simply BEAMING!! And oh oh oh how sweet Hugo is!!! Looks like those summer walks aren't that far off after all!! LOL! Natalie
  19. Truley MANY prayers being answered on this one!!!!!! YAAAAAAY! YAY YAY!
  20. Well I'm officially jealous - it sounds heavenly!! Good luck on your journey - it's one amazing ride!
  21. First of all - when talking to our children about adoption, I don't make anything MY opinion. Like "We can give you a better life." or "they can't afford you" or "they weren't ready for you." instead add some simple words like "They wanted what they thought would be a better life for you." or "They wanted more for you than what they could give you." because it wasn't up to me, it was what they wanted for them. that is just me though...hopefully I'm not way off. I always laugh at what people feel is necessary. Why, for example, do we all have these big expensive homes and find them necessary?
  22. I just know for Catholics, but no it is definetely NOT a sin (though I think the Catholic church needs to push adoption more of an option for mothers...not just preaching about abortion being wrong. Give these girls an option!
  23. Ha ha! Well I don't plan on having 12 kids, but my grandparents did, and then each of them had between 4 and 9 kids of thier own...and thier kids are having up to 5 kids already...I have over 100 cousins on one side! But I'm not nearly as close with them as I am my other side. Eh - you have the mini van now, why stop with 2? Or 3...or 4....LOL!
  24. You should see my BIG FAT CATHOLIC FAMILY!! Once you get into the tried and true Catholics you talk about some BIG families!! Love the BMW!
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