Calix
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I was prepared for this dynamic between adoptive father and birth mother - in the movie and in real life - because the Open Adoption Experience talks about it, says it's common and natural. So glad neither of you experienced it though. Best, Kay
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Well, Jeremy, anytime you and Jessica are coming to visit family and show off the precious baby you adopt from Abrazo, come on by! We can have an impromptu playgroup - Darren and I were in the August 07 orientation group, and we're hoping to become parents in 2008. Best, Kay
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Hello! Welcome!
Why don't you tell you your name?
My husband and I live in Gettysburg, so we're right by Harrisburg. Sorry you're not nearby anymore
Best, Kay
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Woo-hoo Tina! You rock!!
I'm so proud of you and happy you did that. I know exactly how hard it is, because I have a big old mouth. But you never know the effect you are having on people. Some hearts were changed, I'm sure!
Good for you!!
Kay
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I hate to be a worrywart, Tina. But eventually (soon) Mackenzie will be old enough to understand these sorts of things/comments/attitudes, so I do think that some sort of underlying change needs to happen. Like that the environment in the church, in the school, etc be respectful of different relationships. I know you probably don't want your family to be the flagwavers, but some discreet conversations with people in charge might be appropriate. All my best, Kay
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What about talking to the minister? Could he give an eye-opening sermon? Best, Kay
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Nicolas is precious! I hope you're enjoying every minute, even the awful ones. Best, Kay
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JC and Saint, Zowee! It's sounds like quite an adventure, just in time for Christmas. I wish you all the joy in the world, and I hope the birthmom finds comfort in her grief. Congratulations don't express all the feelings I have for you. Best, Kay
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What a blessing for the children, Julie and Jon, and the birthfamily! May your relationships grow and flourish. Best, Kay
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Jada,
I'm very interested in the program you mention. Can you provide any more information about it? Like what is it called? I've never heard of it, despite 10 years of interest in the foster system.
Thanks, Kay
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Welcome, Liza! My husband and I were in Mexico City in June, our second trip there together. This time, we explored Coyoacan more and really enjoyed it. We loved the mercado there.
Being a godmother is wonderful. I adore my goddaughter, who will be 7 years old tomorrow. Congratulations!
Best, Kay
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I want to share my hearty congratulations to all the new families. What a special time to be united with your babes! I send my best wishes for occasional rest to the new parents and for peace in the hearts of the first families. Best, Kay
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I'm so happy to send my deepest congratulations to Annabell and James for being united with the Canteys. What a wonderful family you will ALL - including their first mom - make! Best wishes and blessings, Kay
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Adoption is the power to change a life and as the saying goes, “With great power, comes great responsibility.”
That's my motto! And the lesson that I believe is most important to pass on to a child. Best, Kay
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I think this one looks very good:
The Mulberry Bird: Aimed at younger adoptees, THE MULBERRY BIRD is an enchanting story about a mother bird who decides to place her baby bird for adoption. It explains why a birthmother might consider an adoption plan for her child. Ideal for reading aloud to very young children, this delightful illustrated book presents a large amount of objective information concerning the adoption process in friendly, non-threatening terminology. The engaging story helps children of all ages to understand that being placed for adoption does not mean they are unloved. Indeed, the story of this baby bird's journey to loving family life explains that for people who become parents under unfavorable circumstances, sometimes placing the child for adoption is the most selfless and loving act of all.
This one looks excellent too:
What is Adoption: Helping Non-Adopted Children Understand Adoption :
This book helps adults explain and talk with children about adoption. It also provides reassurance for adopted children about their ability to feel secure in their home environments. Finally, it provides easy-to-understand insight into the adoption process for children who live with their biological parents, and thus helps them to form supportive friendships with peers who are adopted. Concepts covered in the book include: positive use of adoption language; different ways of forming a family; different processes for adopting children; possible reasons for adoption; privacy versus secrecy of adoption details; taking adoption into account when forming a sense of identity; and the permanency of adoption.
Others that are more generally about diverse families:
Best, Kay
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I was reading this blog post today: The Power of Books in Understanding Adoption. And I wondered whether anyone knew of any book that might be good for (birth)siblings to read to prepare for and understand adoption. Are the usual adoption books, like The Night You Were Born, good for all children?
Thanks, Kay
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Congratulations! To both new families! I'm so happy for y'all. Best, Kay
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Wahoo!
What a wonderful announcement!
Congratulations, Brett and Traci.
Best, Kay
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Congratulations, Bob and Diane! I'm so glad your wait is over and your parenting journey has begun.
I'm amazed by three quick placements in a row - Abrazo is on fire!
Kay
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What a day! I'm wishing the happiest of times ahead for these new families.
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When it comes to celebrity news, we want the whole story, John. Don't hold back.
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Congratulations to both new families!
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Hi Maureen,
I'm not in Maryland, but close. Just 12 miles north of the Mason-Dixon line. Good luck with your journey and welcome to Abrazo! Kay
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I read this interesting tidbit this morning and thought I would share:
"I believe that nature, nurture, and choice are the three factors that affect who a person becomes. I believe that both the birthparents’ nature and the adoptive parents’ nurture influence who the child will become. However, it is ultimately the child’s choice what he does with this influence. He can embrace what has been given to him (whether what was given was good or bad), or he can reject it. Ultimately, he will make the choice about what kind of man he becomes."
It's from the Adoptive Parenting Blog: http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.co...n-adopted-child
I loved the way that the three factors mirror the adoption triad, each brings something to the child's life and together they make a whole.
Best, Kay
JUNO- The Movie
in Considering Adoption?
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The Open Adoption Experience is amazing! It covers every single eventuality at every stage of the adoption process. When Baby Adam was stillborn, I was so impressed that it even included a section on infant demise. No wonder Abrazo recommends it for all of their APs!
I'm no psychiatrist, but I think that the adoption experience is so powerful emotionally, that there can be very strong, very close connections between people who aren't related, and that some people experience those feelings as similar to sexual attraction. I took the adoptive father-birth mother bond to be a kind of mirror reflection of the sexual feelings that some adult adoptees and birth parents experience after reunion, known in the field as "genetic sexual attraction."
But what do I know?
Best, Kay