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  5. Nursery Notes

    in Looking to Adopt

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    Praying for this sweet, sweet birthmother....I know she is having an incredibly difficult time right now. I can't imagine how painful it would be to have the awesome privilege of being this precious little girl's mommy for four years and then have to make this heartwrenching decision.

    Also praying for this wonderful, precious, beautiful little girl....with all that's been going on in her life lately, I pray that this transition will be as smooth as possible. And I also pray that when it's all over and done with, she will still have that precious little smile that we couldn't help but fall in love with the first time we saw her picture!!!!

    And for the adoptive parents that this sweet birthmother has chosen....help them to have the patience, understanding, strength, consistency, and most of all, the LOVE that this little girl will need. What an incredible gift they have been given....and what an awesome responsibility!!!!

    Amen Amen.

  8. Celebrity Adoptions

    in Looking to Adopt

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    You're probably right. TMZ is most likely looking for snark rather than seriousness. And there's nothing like a bit of intelligence to ruin the troglodytes' party!

    troglodytes = A person considered to be reclusive, reactionary, out of date, or brutish.

    Now that I looked that up, GREAT WORD!!! I will have to remember it for further use!

  14. Baby Announcements 2007

    in New Arrivals

    Posted · Edited by tksimmons02

    Congratulations Burns Family!

    May your days be full of love and peace (even with 2 toddlers in the house!) :P

    Prayers for peace for the birthfamily that made a very loving and difficult choice.

  20. Picking & Choosing

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    Maybe Abrazo should try calling Alumni that have already experienced those "firsts" about toddler adoptions. If the alumni marked on their original form that they were willing to consider toddler adoption (as we were), their files should be marked, or listed somewhere, in case something like this comes up again.

    At least that way the BP has more opportunities to speak with families.

    I really hope that mom finds what she is looking for.

    Please keep us up to date on her progress!

  22. When Agencies Turn People Down

    in Looking to Adopt

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    No offense taken Jada. You keep right on trucking girl!

    Good luck on your quest to foster/adopt. Jay and I went through those hoops several years ago before we found Abrazo. We still hope to foster/adopt through the state system, but not until we are a little older and wiser (like you!).

  25. Expectations

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    Great thread Claudia! I agree with you. It is really hard to be an adoptive parent. Not only are the expectations higher for us as parents, but the losses involved in our family are constantly put before us like flags marking our differences. My BP's loss in constantly in my thoughts. I agonize for them and the losses they must feel. I pray constantly that they can find peace with their decision and somehow we can get through it together.

    I worry about hte losses my daughter will feel. Everytime we get together with our families I am reminded that she is seperate from us biologically because our families are trying SO HARD to make sure she isn't "Can you believe how much she looks like you?" "It's best to not have contact with her BP's so she won't be confused as to who her family really is..." I know she will wonder where she came from and I hope to have answers for her when the questions come.

    My peers let me know how alien our family is with comments like "I know it was really good for you guys, but I could NEVER give up one of mine. I don't know how anyone could." which makes me feel even MORE unworthy of the family that I have. Like I am some kind of outsider to this whole parenting thing. Every question I have as a new mommy gets scrutinized through a lens of "where did this come from? Is this normal or adoption related?"

    Infertility junk rears its ugly head every so often too, just for kicks. If I only had biological children I wouldn't have all these worries and losses. Maybe next time we should try harder for a biological child instead of adopting (no worries. DH put a firm foot down about that one! :P )

    And while I agree that BP losses are greater than ours, I also believe that our losses are not given as much credit as they deserve. AP's struggle too. We may not have lost as much as BP's, but we have endured losses that are ever before us as well. Our parenting methods are far different from our biological peers. Our worries and struggles have added dimensions. Our parenting is under constant scrutiny by ourselves and others. And through it all, I think we will always wonder..What if....

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