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    Baby Announcements 2014

    Congratulations! What a loving testament to his first mommy. Amazing story. Prayers for both families as they transition.
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    Baby Announcements 2013

    Congratulations! Baby girls are so precious! Prayers for healing for her incredible first family.
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    Financing An Adoption

    Ellen, I love it when you get on a soapbox! Good stuff chicka!
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    Financing An Adoption

    Pie in the sky. Adopting from foster care IS cheaper, but it is still expensive (around $10,000 for legal fees in this state). While I can understand how this would make an adoptee fee "icky", it's unreasonable to assume that just because someone is infertile they have piles of money laying around to afford to expand their family. It's not reasonable or ethical to suggest that infertile folks should give their resources away so that other families can "stay together". There is no way to ever prove that giving funds to others will increase their own ability to parent. It's not always about the money for placing parents.
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    Financing An Adoption

    I wanted to add another fundraising resource that I have come across. http://www.147millionorphans.com/ This website sells merchandise at discounted costs and allows potential adopters to use the funds raised toward their adoptions. I know that the term "147 Million Orphans" applies to International adoptions, but they also sell really cute jewelry that was made by Haitian artisans. So, by purchasing their jewelry you can help Haitian artisans, help 147 Million Orphans fund medical clinics globally, and raise money toward your own domestic adoption. Everyone wins!
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    Growing Spiritual Children

    http://www.hubbardscupboard.org/christian_resources.html I found this link last week, and I LOVE the resources it has for children. My daughter is almost 7 (hard to believe!), but she enjoys learning Bible verses in songs. I just printed the Easter links. It's a great resource for kids from toddlers up through early elementary.
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    Celebrity Adoptions

    Oh my goodness! I could just squeeze those precious cheeks to pieces!
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    Who Birthmoms Are

    Elizabeth, I spoke to her about talking to Makenzie. We are planning some "play dates" in the future so that Makenzie will become more comfortable around her. Her son is a year younger than Makenzie, so it shouldn't be too hard for them to play together. She offered to speak with Makenzie, and I am going to let her. I think Makenzie needs a physical reassurance that she really was loved very much. I hadn't thought of inviting her to Abrazo, but I'm going to do so now. Thanks!
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    Who Birthmoms Are

    Last night we attended our homegroup (a small group of people from church). Our current study is about knowing who you are in Christ. One of the exercises was to tell your children every day for a week that they are fearfully and wonderfully made just as they are. The wording of it reminded me very much of proper adoption language, and some discussions we have been having with Makenzie lately about where she came from. She has mentioned that she "misses M" (her first mom) and that she "wishes she could've come out of my tummy." I tell her that M misses her too, and that I am glad she didn't come from my tummy because I'm pretty sure she wouldn't have her wonderful voice if she came from me, or her beautiful green eyes, or her fabulous sense of balance, etc. etc. So, I mentioned that I was an adoptive mom and that this is a discussion in our house a lot. My daughter is absolutely fearfully and wonderfully made. She is a unique person all to her own. Her first parents loved her SO MUCH that they shattered their own hearts just to give her the life they thought she deserves. I tell her often how God placed her with us. She is a special blessing. Well, we are in a new group of people (they had no idea we had adopted), and this woman across from me just started bawling. I thought she was just touched by the messages my child heard (she is rather emotional, and cried several times during our video series last night). After our meeting, she approached me and gave me a big hug. It seems she is a birthmother. She became pregnant as a teenager and was forced to place her son for adoption. She still beats herself up thinking that perhaps she should have fought more to keep him, but she knows deep down it was for the best. She recently re-established contact with him (he turned 18) and she found him on Facebook. She asked if he would like to meet her (she has dreamed of him all these years). At first, he wanted to. He posted about how he finally had the opportunity to meet the woman he had always wondered about. Then his adoptive parents got involved. They promised at placement to send her updates and pictures (they didn't). They told their son that it was best to leave his first mother alone because he would most likely be disappointed in her character. She is a wonderful woman. She is the proud mother of a four year old son, happily married, gainfully employed, and sweet as peaches. I can't imagine why the adoptive parents would poison this boy so. She did the most responsible thing possible for her at that time. She is amazing, and she still adores him SO MUCH. She worries about his safety and his health. She prays for the choices he makes (he's a freshman in college - lots of partying going on). She is every bit a mother in her regard to him as I am to my daughter that I parent every day. She was just greatly touched that we spoke so positively to Makenzie about her first parents. She asked me to pray for her birthson and his family. She wants desperately to reach out, but so far, he refuses to answer her anytime she messages him, so she is just watching his updates and praying he comes around. I cried with her for awhile after we spoke. She really wants to talk to Makenzie and reassure her that her first parents do love her deeply (Makenzie doubts this a lot right now, despite our reassurances that they adore her as much as we do. It is hard for a six year old to understand such grown up things). I am looking forward to developing a relationship with her. I don't know how often this happens, but I hope someone will read this post and feel compelled to reach out to their child's first family again. Don't be afraid. This dear woman doesn't want to replace her son's adoptive parents, she just wants to touch that sweet boy again. She wants to hug him close and let him know that not once has he left her thoughts. Not once has his birthday gone by that she didn't think of him. She is thankful for the life his adoptive parents provide for him. She is thankful that he has the opportunity to go to college debt free - something she still hasn't done. She is proud of him and all that he is. She just wants him to know he is deeply loved by more than his parents. She wants his adoptive parents to know how thankful she is to them for all that they have done. She wants to support his adoptive parents, and her son, in this life as hard as it is.
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    "Why is it we always want more?

    I must admit sometimes it is hard to be on the Forum and read all the excitement from the PIW. I have wanted to expand our family for awhile, but He had other plans; Plans that were far different from mine, but still better. I too wonder if we ever really lose that desire for more children in our homes. While I would love to have more, I sometimes struggle with feelings that perhaps I can't handle more than 1 (energy and time demands expand exponentially). For now, I am letting go and letting God.
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    Baby Announcements 2011

    I LOVE the name Alejandro!! What a sweet family story! Many blessings to the new family and prayers for this precious one's first family.
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    Baby Announcements 2011

    Many blessings to both new families!
  13. Um, this reminds me of the story Elizabeth told us at our orientation about the couple that wanted a child from a "virgin" birthmother. They didn't want to raise a child from "that kind of girl". I can only imagine the stupidty lurking behind such ridiculous exteriors. Jesus said that we are to be examples of HIS love to the world. I doubt that Jesus would refuse to adopt someone from one of "those kinds of people". I read the Bible to say very clearly that we are to be Salt and Light to an otherwise dark world. That means LOVING "those kinds of people", not just loving those who are like us. Makes me sick that such bigots call themselves "Christians".
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    Designated Program

    Pink is a lovely color! Excitement abounds for some lucky couple.
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    Baby Announcements 2011

    Hearty congratulations to the Segura family! Prayers of healing and peace to the precious first family.
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    Baby Announcements 2011

    Congratulations to the new family!! Blessings to this sweet boy, his precious first family, and his over-joyed new parents.
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    Baby Announcements 2011

    Congratulations to the newest Abrazo family! Blessings to you all!
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    Baby Announcements 2010

    Congratulations! Little girls are such fun! Prayers of healing for her precious first mother who loves her so.
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    Celebrity Adoptions

    What a cool article! Thanks for sharing.
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    Baby Announcements 2010

    Congratulations!!! Girls rule!
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    Baby Announcements 2010

    Congratulations Kenny & Michelle! How wonderful! Prayers for healing for Carter's courageous first family.
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    INQUIRY

    Welcome Allie & Ross!
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    Celebrity Adoptions

    I don't think a failed marriage is a good reason to terminate an adoption plan. No one can know the future. Marriages fail for lots of valid reasons - and that doesn't nullify the ability of the parties involved to parent. Birthmothers make the best choice they can - just like couple entering a marriage. No one is given a guarantee that their choice will work out. I don't think adoptions should be reversed just because the adoptive couple chooses to seperate. Just like I don't think an adoption should be turned over just because the birthfamily finds themselves in a better situation and able to parent.
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    Baby Announcements 2010

    congratulations!
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    In Memoriam

    Adding my prayers for comfort and peace for all of those left behind.
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