Kristal,
The point you make about it being OUR baby is so right!!!
It just so happened that we just spent a wonderful weekend w/ our birthmom and her family. We had family pictures made and went out to eat afterwards, this lady came up to us and asked why we were dressed alike, so we told them we had family pictures made and she asked who the girls (Samantha and her birthsister) were and we (our birthmom and I) said OURS!! It was the most natural thing to say and it just came out without a second thought.
We consider our birthfamily part of our family and would not want it any other way. I love to see our birthmom holding, kissing and loving on Samantha.
By the way, I have been following your story and am glad you are posting so we can see things from the birthfamilies point of view.
Debra