I did not try egg donation but considered the option after our attempt at in-vitro with my eggs was not successful. The bottom line that made the decision for us against egg donation was this - how do you explain to a child that his mother was donor egg #3457? For some people, egg donation is a wonderful option and I encorage people to explore that option if they are comfortable with the physical, emotional, and financial risks involved. Overall, it just seemed very cold and too scientific for us. The experience of a pregnancy would have been nice, but not a requirement as we knew we could unconditionally love a child that was not biologic.
A family, not a pregnancy, was our intended goal and we will become parents in the next few weeks. We enjoy the relationship with our birthmother and feel that our lives have been enriched through the experience of open adoption.
Best of luck to your friend!!
Brooke and Claudia