smitty....
i have waited to post so that i might get past your hurtful attitude and not lash out as i post a reply...
but as a birthmom of a beautiful son who i placed with a very wonderful couple i am VERY OFFENDED. You have chosen to type before thinking of the pain and unrest you may cause to a family thinking about placing a child... you have also not given respect nor the bat of an eye as you type very unnerving things to and about birthfamilies and adoptive families as well...
so i will give you a lil insight on how i feel... you may not have been given a "working tummy" due to the way you handle things in life. you may need to go through some pain and heartbreak before you are able to fully love a child. I do not know. However, as a birthparent giving advice... before you go through an adoption plan and giving yourself hope you should really think about your hopes and dreams...
do you want a child .... so badly that you could love any child... do you ask God for a healthy baby or do you ask for a baby with conditions of parenting... will a birthmom chose you if you are so bitter ... could you agree to care for a child of someone so giving if you are such a close minded individual?
maybe before you post or further your thinking about adoption you should attend a little group session that has birthmoms, adoptive parents and proffessionals that could help you get past the hurt, anger, heart break," let down by God" feelings that you have and get to a more happy place of love and mutual respect.
i will pray that you will find peace in your heart and mind and that if you do chose adoption that you have become a more receptive person to another's feelings and wishes...
may you have the opportunity to parent without interference from anyone except those who want give love to that precious baby... for all of us shall reap the benefits of a loved child