shelley

I have to say that I feel terribly unqualified to answer this - but I find it a compelling question. I don't have an answer, but it reminds me of how I feel about my Daddy, who passed away in 2004. I hate that Sloane will never know him, but I want her to have a sense of who he is. So I have a picture of him, in his prime (skinny with lots of thick, dark hair) framed in her nursery. It's not in a very prominent place, but it's still there. And I talk to her about him in way that makes him seem "real" - not like he's going to pop in for a visit, but in a way that lets her know that alt

You are right. But you can't deny the unbreakable bond you have with your girls either. I have always believed that in so many ways you were their great protector and their strength - and one of the biggest reasons they are both so beautfiul and healthy today. Shelley

So overjoyed for my fellow piggies!!! I've been hanging out on the forum all day just for this news!

Thanks for posting the article Dyna. Really enjoyed it.

Love the black and white picture you added - and am so grateful/happy that you keep sharing your thoughts. I wish more people from the placement side would share as openly and honestly as you do, although I understand why that is not the case. Your insight helps all of us to have more compassion, as well as a more meaningful understanding of the adoption process. I also wanted to add that you have a beautiful grandbaby.

1st Time Grandma, You post is very courageous. You are right - it's easy to share joy and excitement. But the harder side of life is so much more challenging to discuss - especially when you are a private, protective person. Your words expose what an amazing and beautiful heart you have. No question, your daughters and granddaughter are lucky to have you as a nurturer and role model - as is the couple who your grandbaby was placed with... I hope your post leads to an overwhelming amount of love and support for you and your family. I also hope that it inspires others who are in your s

Congratulations! I love the name Elektra - reminds me of the beautiful Greek plays.

Don, Andrea & Clara, I am so happy for you!!! You have always been such a source of encouragement to us all - my heart overflows with joy for you!!!! We definitely need to plan a playdate!!! Shelley

Elizabeth - your words are beautiful and so true. I imagine most adoptive families think their baby's first mother is amazing - but it is hard to say how very special ours is. The fact that she is even here with is remarkable - and that she is still strong enough to place her precious angel in our care, even more so. I don't know how she manages to endure so much and still be so incredibly beautiful and full of light. But she has had the miracle of a mother's love. Our baby not only has an amazing birthmother, but a birthgrandmother who would go to the end of the earth to demonstrate he