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  3. What made you pick Abrazo?

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    Hi - We're hoping to adopt again domestically and I was just wondering what made everyone choose Abrazo? It seems like a great agency! :D

    We, too were referred by a friend, but when I came to the forum, it was obvious that we hoped to adopt the "Abrazo" way! Our first was not through Abrazo, and we were less than thrilled with that agency.

    Even though we didn't take our first placement through Abrazo, we were embraced on the forum...and that has been such a blessing to us (in more ways than one). We stayed active and through that found our second daughter...so now we are officially an Abrazo family!

    CHeck out the forum topics and you will see the kind of support and encouragement that is typical here. We are not perfect here, but we are a loving and supportive bunch!!

  7. JUNO- The Movie

    in Considering Adoption?

    Posted

    I was prepared for this dynamic between adoptive father and birth mother - in the movie and in real life - because the Open Adoption Experience talks about it, says it's common and natural. So glad neither of you experienced it though. Best, Kay

    Didn't read that one, Kay, but it is common for the adoptive father to desire leaving the adoptive mother to be with the birth mother??? That blows my mind, and I guess it would be one of those things people don't talk about.

  8. JUNO- The Movie

    in Considering Adoption?

    Posted

    I think the movie was okay, but I was really upset with the apparent "feelings" that Mark seemed to have developed for Juno. When she went by with the sonogram and they were in the basement he told her that he was leaving Vanessa and he thought that she would be happy about that. Hello! He is 30ish and she is 16!!! That was a bit sick in my book.

    There were moments for me to connect, though. I thought of Elizabeth's things not to say to birth parents when Vanessa asked how sure Juno was that she was going to place. I also thought it tacky to ask if she expected other compensation. I cried when Vanessa held her for the first time, as well as with Juno lying in the bed crying. I couldn't help but think of our birth moms being in that place...and I cried for all of us.

    I think I like the movie more than I first thought I did...but the Juno/Mark think really bothered me.

  11. The Welcome Wagon!

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted · Edited by Dale and Amanda

    Jeremy and Jessica, you have found an incredible resource! First...the application. Then get on the forum and look around. I have found that most questions I have had are addressed here somewhere! The forumites are happy to share experiences and journeys and that is an incredible thing in adoption!Welcome and I look forward to following your journey!

  13. Picking & Choosing

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    I can see the point of view where people want a "custom ordered" child. There were times past that it was touted that way, and I think it has been hard to move beyond people thinking of it that way, or in doing such a great thing for a child "in need."

    We struggled early on, but decided that we would let God handle that part of things and we became very open to the different possibilities with a placement. I think that it was Monday or Tuesday before we left on Tuesday afternoon before I ever thought to ask if Nichole was healthy or if there was anything we needed to prepare for. I am sure had there been anything major the ladies at Abrazo would have let us know, but we knew that Nichole was meant to be ours and therefore we were busting to get to her.

    I have said it elsewhere and several times before, but we couldn't have guaranteed health in our biological child, nor could we have requested a certain gender. Seeing God's miracle is amazing and we are so fortunate to be a part of it in some way. I hope that those coming in and those waiting search their hearts for an openness that they haven't known before. We did, and I am so thankful for it.

  18. Open Adoption

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    Tina, just let me know if you ever need backup! I am sure I could make an appearance...and I am not good at keeping my mouth shut, either!

    I really wish we could have contact with D for Arianna's sake. In this last letter I sent, I asked her to at least have the agency help her call me. When I talked to her last year, she had mentioned an annual visit, but she hasn't contacted the agency about it. I relish my conversations with Nichole's birthmom, even though I can tell that they still pain her. I figure she wants to know, and if it isn't a good day for her to talk to me, she keeps it quite short. I try to follow her lead. Sometimes the calls are better than others.

    We can't make everyone see our point of view, we can only explain to them what we do and why. Hopefully this adoptive family will get a clue and will open their minds.

    Tina, you are welcome at my church anytime!

  19. Nursery Notes

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    Please, keep the little fella in the hospital here and whomever is his future forever family in your prayers, because if anyone can bring the details all together in record time, it's the One Upstairs! ;)

    Amen!!! Praying for open doors for his forever family...wherever they are!

  21. Putting up a Praise!!!

    in Abrazo's Chapel Potluck

    Posted

    I would like to put up a praise to our daughter, Alana / 3 1/2 years. Saturday, she had over 10 inches of hair cut and donated to locks of love. She was so very proud of being able to help another little girl who does not have hair. It brought tears to our eyes to see her beautiful, below her bottom length hair cut to shoulder length, but so worth it and proud of her when she turned to the hairdresser and said. . ."I am beautiful. Thank you!!! And this hair to for another little girl to be beautiful too!!!!!"

    God bless our beautiful angel!

    Rhonda

    Rhonda, how great to have a little one that is already concerned for others!!!

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