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  5. Celebrity Adoptions

    in Looking to Adopt

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    Good for him, but he could have thought better about the way he phrased things. Talking about the fat, ugly 16-year-old that had been to many of these and knew he/she wouldn't be adopted, but he found a "cute" one??? Maybe I read it the wrong way, or am in a bad mood, it just hit me wrong.

  19. A Birth Grandmother's Role

    in BirthGrandparents & Important Others

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    ....For days and weeks I would find myself driving and felt the desire or need to just keep going, no place in particular, just driving as far away as I could (but I didn’t), kind of running away from home, from my life at that moment, from my aching heart..... There had to be a better way I kept thinking, I couldn’t let this happen, but my head told me that it was the right thing to do, even if my heart ached and felt like it would break in a million pieces.

    If only you knew how many other people echoed the way you feel/felt. (((Mari)))

    A common ground for all of us...with those of use that deal with infertility, too!

  21. A Birth Grandmother's Role

    in BirthGrandparents & Important Others

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    I do have to apologize for my part 2, I hadn’t realized it was all bunched together..Don’t mind telling you, that as I write my daughter’s and our story, I really get nervous, sentimental (I like to use this word better then emotional) and so many other emotions come pouring out, that sometimes I find myself writing through watery eyes, and I am also still trying to learn to navigate here. I will try to do better though, and make my story a little more legible.

    Mari

    For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.

    James 1:3

    Mari, don't worry about how it looked. I am sure many of us read it through watery eyes! It is such a blessing to have the benefit of hearing the stories of those that have been on the placing side. I went to a home show party last night, and the girls that held it have a picture of our girls on their fridge. It usually gives me a chance to share our story with someone new and give them my perspective on those that have sacrificed through placing. I was able to give someone a different way of looking at the act of placing, and I am grateful for that. I think that one of the things that can eventually come from more open adoptions is changing the public's view of first moms and families. Your daughter (and you and your mom) are struggling with a loss. Feeling like you can't talk about it in many areas of your life because of a negative connotation is terrible.

    I hope that one day soon everyone will realize what a loving and sacrificial act placement is, and honor and support the brave women and families that choose it.

  23. NEW PARENTS NEEDED!

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    There are a few of us on here that can certainly attest to the need for more open special needs and racial preferences. This is not to slam those that have decided that they really can't work through placement of a full African American child or one that has special needs, but if your heart is so inclined, don't hesitate to let Abrazo know. We have two African American daughters (one placed through Abrazo) and think it is a wonderful thing. Not that we have it easy, we live in a racially charged area and people don't hesitate to share their opinion on our family!

    Nichole was a "Nursery Note" as they did not have a waiting family that was open to full AA. The Stork posted a need, we responded and the rest is history!!

    If anyone has any questions, please feel free to PM me or ask on the open forum if you would prefer!

  25. Positive Adoption Language Primer

    in The Family Room

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    Amanda,

    We don't have contact with our birth mom but we do have something that we do with McKenna. We ask her who loves you? Her response will be Mommy and Daddy and Mama Anna. Then we ask her who is in her heart and her response is Daddy Edurado (he passed away). She knows that we all lover her.

    We also have pictures in her room (Mama Anna, Daddy Edurado and McKenna) and in our living room (there is a picture of us, McKenna and Mama Anna)

    Paula

    Paula, I think that is awesome! We have pics for Nichole, but even though I have sent repeated requests, we have yet to receive anything from Arianna's family.

    We are looking forward to camp this summer as on the way back we will stop in Houston and see C!!!

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