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  2. INQUIRY

    in Looking to Adopt

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    ... Funny...most people sorta get sad at 25 because they are "halfway through thier twenties" as a friend of mine said. I can not WAIT because then we will be on our road to another baby!!

    Natalie

    Just think your half way to 50. ;) At least that's what others teased me about when I was 25.

    Heather :)

  11. Compulsory Adoption

    in Considering Adoption?

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    Angela and Audra went out today to visit a juvenile facility at the request of a caseworker there, who said they'd previously referred their cases to another local agency, one that told incarcerees they weren't entitled to know where their babies would be going and wouldn't let them see their infants after delivery. (As if their newborns are any less entitled to the comfort of antepartum contact with or future access to their birthmoms, just because of what they did to get locked up?!) Furthermore, the caseworker mentioned, that agency never had further contact with their mothers, nor provided them any further services (ie., counseling) after relinquishment. As archaic as this seems, it is apparently the norm for many other licensed agencies. My heart goes out to any inmate who must make such difficult decisions under such inhumane circumstances, with adoption "professionals" who do nothing to make the placement experience any less bleak and disempowering than it already is for them! :angry:

    Great rehabilitation services. :angry:

    Heather

  12. What made you pick Abrazo?

    in Looking to Adopt

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    lovehopeandfaith,

    The thing that impresses me the most about Abrazo is how much they want you to continue to be a part of the Abrazo family. They want to continue to know about your child as they grow up. We adopted two children from another agency and one from Abrazo. The other agency does not ask to know about the children they placed with us. This makes me kind of sad.

    Good luck on your journey and we hope you will join the Abrazo family! :)

    Heather :)

  14. Frank Talk about Open Adoption

    in Looking to Adopt

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    The initial relationship, in every open adoption plan, is between the adults. If, for whatever reason, not all of those adults are able to sustain contact, then I believe it falls to the adults responsible for the child's daily welfare to ensure that the child has ongoing access to all available information about the absent party, to help assure them that this absence is not a reflection of their interest in nor regard for the child, and to help instill in that child positive feelings about those who are not currently able or willing to be in contact. That's the best that any parent can do, under such circumstances.

    I have been wondering about this subject lately. Katelyn's birthmother seems to not want contact. Emelie's birthmother writes to us occasionaly and we write back. I would really like to open our relationship with Emelie's birthmother but I wonder what is best for Emelie. There have been issues but I've been longing to connect. Emelie still does not grasp the concept of adoption and her birthmother is very sensitive and I worry that she may feel rejected if Emelie does not remember her. Of course we have contact with Brayden's birthfamily as much as possible. I think when you start out with a semi-open adoption it is harder to open the relationship.

    Do I frame a picture of their birthmother's? Is it a sad reminder to Katelyn that her birthmother is too scared to have a relationship? If one relationship is more open with one than another does that add salt to the wound?

    What our your experiences?

    Heather :)

  18. Picking & Choosing

    in Looking to Adopt

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    I was stuck on gender also but gave in and took into consideration each case presented to us. We talked to so many birthmothers I lost count. I had in my mind the perfect baby, hispanic to match our first daughter, infant and of course a boy. Well during our waiting period my heart was pryed open little by little and it led us to the perfect baby that the Lord intended for us. Beautiful baby Brayden who is part AA. I love being a rainbow family! :D Never say never.

    Heather

  21. Nursery Notes

    in Looking to Adopt

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    I was talking to a freind last night and telling her about this little boy and she told me a story of a friend of her's who had a child who was born as a dwarf. The family decided to give him shots or medication that would help him to grow and she said he ended being the size of his cousins. This was 30 years ago. I was so amazed. The only thing was that this child could not have his own children and at the time the treatments were very expensive.

    Heather

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