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  7. How It Feels to "Give Up" a Child

    in Looking to Adopt

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    Its so true Mari - Adoption is a painful process for the placing family - and it doesn't stop being painful over the course of time. I so hope that your story and your particiaption here will be the reminder that we all need. The pain can be easier with open relationships - for everyone including the children - and its that why adoption happens inthe 1st place as an option that is good for the children. And in your case - for your child and her child. Be blessed

  9. A Birth Grandmother's Role

    in BirthGrandparents & Important Others

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    gosh - as a pediatric Oncology nurse - I feel for you and your family - I have helped many families of children with brain tumors- none that were expecting since they had to be cared for in an adult setting prepared to assist with the delivery. I am so proud of my medical "team mates" for being so kind and compassionate with you and your family.

  10. Baby Announcements 2009

    in New Arrivals

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    May Hugo and Lathan both have lives filled with love, health and laughter. May these boys always know the love their 1st families had for them and the courage it took to place them in the loving arms of the people they will call Mommy and Daddy. Congradulations on Sticking it out....

  18. Positive Adoption Language Primer

    in The Family Room

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    Adoption has merged our families in a way that isn't the standard, but we all understand it and it works for us.

    I think that this states my feelings perfectly! We are now a part of a larger family, and that is amazing! There are more people to love our girls. I guess it just seems to me that we talk about making positive changes, but we get stuck with keeping distinct words for separating the roles. Some kids have two father figures because of divorce and remarriage. Ours have them because of adoption!!! Why is it that society allows for that in divorce, but not adoption?

    Amen Ms Amanda- The world isFILLED with complicated, and complex families- and they are all beautiful!

  20. Positive Adoption Language Primer

    in The Family Room

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    We haven't shared the names of our girls' moms with anyone. With C, I know she is so private and has kept the placement just between her and her son. Is it something that we should be sharing, or is that part of the girls' story that they can share if/when they are ready to? We talk about it between us (and tell the girls regularly that C and D love them, too!) but when I refer to those special ladies, I refer to them as their mom.

    Have I been making a poor decision up to this point?

    Amanda - I don't see it as a poor decision at all. All of our situations are just different. Since Parker's birth family has attended camp,and we have visits with Gabe's birth family and I post picks and stories about everyone- I use their names. First names only - my parents have met Gabe's birth family too. I do alot to re-assure anyone I ma talking to about the boys birth families - that YES they did love thme - that's why they made an adoption choice. I think everyone should make choices about how and when sharing information is done based on each situatiuon. I KNOW you have C and D's along with girls best interests in your heart always!

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