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  5. Celebrity Adoptions

    in Looking to Adopt

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    Hey now.....I am older ( by a couple years) than Parker's birth grandmother....I guess I resemble that remark :P

    What I always wonder is does and how the "celebrity" status might influence a 16 yr old choice to place - and is that a type of coersion???? Could a 16 yr think that by placing a child with "them" she might gain status or receive something in return...I wonder how a social worker would handle that - espically an open/identified placement? Would the celebs wonder about "bad press" or blackmail? Gosh......kinda makes me see why the Jole-Pitts haven't ventured into Domestic adoption...

  9. Baby Announcements 2007

    in New Arrivals

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    Welcome to the family litte boy. Ummmm I wonder might this single lady be from the sunshine state.

    Sunshine? I'm not so sure about that. Snow might be more appropriate!

    Either way, this loving mom from "The North Star State" is proudly featured in the gallery with her newest son, a strong boy from "The Lone Star State".

    Congratulations to the newest mom! This one was written in the stars!

    oops must have been a short curcit in my thinking or not enough coffee :lol: ... So never mind , and again I say welcome welcome to Elias Jaden. Its so cool to see another single mom raising a little boy, when so many women feel like they would do better with a little girl I say NOT TRUE - look at those beautiful faces. So I hope the latest Momma will add to some of the interesting conversations/topics ..... ( Not only theCowboy Dennis Hoppla)

  11. For our Jewish friends

    in Abrazo's Chapel Potluck

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    HAPPY PASSOVER or GODD PESACH TO ALL

    We will be celebrating Pesach on saturday (Just couldn't make it work last night). We have the "short" kid friendly service set up as we will be having 6 of the under 5 set for dinner. The coolest part is all 6 are adopted ( 3 full AA boys, 2 little girls from China and a little caucasion boy, plus one family is currently a PIW in California) Its just such a gift that the process of creating family has also created so many friendships along the way.

    So we will be using a Passover book complete with stickers and crayons to help the kids with the Sedar..

  15. Celebrity Adoptions

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted · Edited by HeidiK

    Why do governments make these types of 'exceptions'...money of course. Everybody knows that! I certainly hope that the child will be well loved and have a good life with them. I wonder if it would be at all possible for a celebrity to participate in an open adoption relationship...and would the birth family be more likely to place with a high profile couple like Joele-Pitt because of their fame and fortune. Or would they feel vulnerable if the birth family knew who and wher the child was...like all the time. And can an unmarried couple even adopt in the States. Ummmmmmmmmmmm I wonder

  20. The Myths, Misconceptions, Facts, & Reality of Open Adoption

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted · Edited by HeidiK

    Adding ON to Lisa's list...

    How do these relate to you and your initial thoughts on open adoption or your current thoughts on open adoption? How were you able to resolve some of these "cons" for yourself and move forward with a commitment to open adoption? Are there any that you'd like to add?

    Potential PROS of Open Adoption for Adoptive Parents

    Increased sense of having the "right" to parent and increased ability for confident parenting.

    Potential for authentic relationship with the birth family.

    More understanding of children's history.

    Increased empathy for birth parents.

    Less fear of birth parents reclaiming child because they know the parent and their wishes.

    Delight of being "chosen" as a parent.

    Connection with biological siblings and extended members of birth family

    Introduction and connection to the birth culture and traditions of that heritage

    Potential CONS of Open Adoption for Adoptive Parents

    Full responsibility for setting relationship limits and boundaries.

    Potential pressure: accept openness or no child.

    Potential difficulty with emotionally disturbed birth parents.

    Potential for supporting both child and birth parents (emotionally)

    Family pressure to disconnect from birth family( openess is not a good thing), and/or ongoing education for extended family regarding value of open adoption for all involved

    What if an open relationship needs to be closed - effects on child, birth family, adoptive parents

    Abandonment issues

  23. Bi-racial/Transracial Adoption: Fears, Prejudice & Praise

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    Sabrina I loved your poem!

    I have been lurking on this post for sometime. We were weighing our hearts and options. Shawn and I came to the conclusion that we will think outside the box and open our hearts to a child of any race. I feel better that we are not limiting ourselves. Thank you all for your inspirational thoughts and comments.

    Heather :)

    Heather and Shawn,

    I am so THERE for you guys...........

    Hugs

    Heidi

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