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  1. The Myths, Misconceptions, Facts, & Reality of Open Adoption

    in Looking to Adopt

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    I am not sure if this is the correct thread to post this so please feel to move it!

    This weekend I read "Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother". I first picked up this book hoping to find that some of my feelings that I have experienced up to this point are perfectly normal. While I did not experience everything the author, Jana Wolff, did with the adoption of her son, we did have alot in common. I wanted to share one of her statements that I found very powerful and in my opinion sums up why I feel that open adoption is a wonderful thing!

    "I need Martie (birth mother) to help me raise our son. I don't need her at bath time, or story time, or bed time. But I definitely need her to help me paint a complete picture for Ari (her son), of who he is and where he came from. There are questions only she can answer, commonalities only she can offer."

    To me that statement says it all. Yes many adoptive parents can be/are great parents but they can not provide all the answers a child may need. This is one of many precious gifts that can only be provided by birthfamilies. This why I believe so firmly in open adoption!

  10. Open Adoption

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    I'm a mother because another mother granted that chance to me.

    And if you think my momhood challenges people's assumptions, think about her: a proud and loving mother who nonetheless knew that her child would thrive in another woman's embrace.

    Thanks for sharing the article. I thought it was very touching. To me the above statements are very powereful.

  12. How Much Does It Cost To Raise a Child?

    in Considering Adoption?

    Posted

    Ellouise,

    I am right there with you. Yesterday when I told me husband what the estimated cost for raising our three boys would be over $1.6 million he simply replied it was the best money he has or will ever spend. Yes our life would be very different without children and we would be able to afford many more things than we can right now but we would not be near as happy as we are right now :D:D:D

  14. Your First Post!

    in Looking to Adopt

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    We are in the same boat. We received our application on Monday. It is quite overwhelming!! We are very excited to get started but we are just not sure of where to start. Best wishes to you!

    The above post was my first post and it was to Elaine. I remember lurking for awhile but I never posted. It is amazing looking back and reliving everything that has happend over the past year and half. When I typed this post I had no idea that in a month time, I was going to meet nine of the most amazing couples to share in the journey to parenthood. I was very scared that a birthmother would not be interested in us since we already had to children and the fact that they were biological. I was so new to the process I had no idea what to do.

    Now I here I am alittle wiser in some aspects but still lost in others with the whole open adoption. I had this picture perfect idea of what it was going to be like but unfortunantly at this moment is not where we wished it would be. We are still very hopeful and believe open adoption is a wonderful thing!!!

  18. INQUIRY

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    Welcome Kristin!!! I am glad that you are posting. As I am sure you have already learned, the forum offers the support and gudiance that you will need to carry you through the adoption process. Our son just turn one and it has been an amazing journey. Abrazo is simiply amazing! I can't wait to follow your journery to becoming parents!!! How exciting!!!

  21. Truth or Dare

    in Looking to Adopt

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    This week, Abrazo had to deal with a very sad situation in which a couple who'd recently joined our program had to make the decision to withdraw because of some painful personal information they did not disclose to their homestudy worker, that resulted in the revocation of their homestudy, once discovered. For whatever reasons the information was withheld, it prevented the homestudy worker from being able to make an informed assessment of the couple's readiness for adoption, resulting in enormous trust issues and disappointment all around. It also made some good people look less than truthful.

    It serves as a huge reminder of the importance of being honest and forthcoming with all needed information, however private one may be. The adoption process may seem very invasive (on both sides, to birthparents and adopting parents) and sharing one's most personal data with multiple parties is surely intimidating.

    However, it is imperative that this occur, so as to build a basis for trust between clients and professionals, in order to ensure that the best interests of children are being safeguarded at all times, in every step taken on their behalf.

    I am sorry to hear this and my prayers are with all the individuals involved in this. I am sure this must a rough time for them.

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