Elaine
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What an emotional story! All involved will be in my thoughts and prayers! I wish the best for all of them.
Elaine
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I can not get over this "flood" of brand new little people!!!
I am so excited for each and everyone of you!
May God bless you and your new family!
Love,
Elaine
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Good evening and welcome to the forum! My husband and I just mailed off our application a week ago, so the infertility letter is still fresh in my mind.
I called my gynecologist's office and asked to speak to one of her nurses. I told her that my husband and I were adopting, and we needed a letter from my doctor.
My doctor typed up a nice note stating that she has been my gyn. since 2001. She also stated that she was the one that diagnosed me as being infertile. I had the Dr. office mail me the letter ASAP. That was easier then driving approx. 45 minutes (one way to her office) to pick it up. As we all know most doctors are very busy and occassionally they may "drop the ball". I knew taking the time to type up a letter for me was not at the top of their priority list, but it was at the top of mine!
I figured "the squeaky wheel gets the oil" and called them every other day until I had the letter in hand. I also told them from the first call (concerning the infertility letter) that my adoption paperwork could not be mailed off until I had that letter in hand. That seemed to prompt them to do it a little faster as well.I made a copy of the letter from my doctor (as well as all of my other documents) before mailing my application off. I just wanted to make sure if anything ever happened (in the mail) that I had a back up copy of everything.
Hope this helps. Again, welcome to the forum! I have found it so helpful in chatting with others that are/have been in my shoes. I look forward everyday to logging on and seeing what is new!
Keep us posted on how things are going. Are you all coming to the March orientation? My husband and I are attending that one.
Sincerely,
Elaine
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Mickey and I are a childless couple, and we are willing to adopt a child of full Hispanic descent.
You should be receiving our application packet either today or tomorrow. Hopefully, you will have room for us at the March orientation! Our fingers are crossed!!!We are looking so forward to hearing from you when our information is received! Talk to you soon.
Elaine
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Angie,
I had actually wondered the same thing. I am not in the medical field so my thoughts on it were like...hare lip, cleft palete, birth marks, etc. My husband and I were afraid on some questions that we were being "to picky", but they want you to be honest. Just answer the questions the best you can. Sometimes going with your first instinct is your true response. When we over analyze things many times we confuse ourselves.
Good luck with your qpplication. Which orientation are you going to?
Elaine
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Hey guys! I had a faculty meeting after school, so I just caught the tail end of Dr. Phil. I was hoping I would see an update on the little boy from India.
I wondered after the first show why she (the adopted mom) was not more guarded in being so blunt about the abhorrence she felt for her adopted son. That was very bizarre. I know sometimes with editing a person can be cast in a bad light...but no one made her say "I don't love him", "I tell him he is stupid", "I tell him that I wish we hadn't adopted him", "I wish we could give him back", etc. Then, I finally thought that maybe she actually hoped to sabotage her position as his adopted mother. Maybe she hoped that the state would come and take him away after the show aired. I don't know.
I was very relieved today to see her treating her son like a son. I just hope it was genuine. I wondered if she watched the show of herself (from the first time) and nearly had an aneurism! I have heard people on T.V. say before that watching themselves on the tube is a big wake up call.
Whatever the reason for her change of heart, praise God! That little boy deserves the best!
Elaine
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I am also a proud Tennesseean, and I want to say Congratulations!!! I am sorry for the loss of your Daddy, but I am so happy to hear that your Little Angel has finally arrived.
Enjoy this blessed time in your life!
Best Wishes,
Elaine
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Good evening! I wanted to ask a question about adoption books. My husband and I have two nephews (ages 5 and 9). I would like to find a good book(s) concerning adoption that maybe could help children understand adoption better. It could either be a children's book about adoption or an adult book concerning adoption (that their Mom could read and help answer any questions they might have). I have seen on the forum at least three books that come highly recommended for couples adopting, but I have not run across any that seem geared towards extended family.
I believe that my older nephew has a pretty good grasp on what adoption is, but I am not sure that the little one understands very well. We do have adopted cousins on both sides of our family, but they live far off...so my nephews don't have a close relationship with them.
We have all experienced people (related to us or otherwise) that ask questions concerning adoption in a rude fashion. I would just like to get a book that helps educate family (and children) on what type of language to use when speaking of/to an adopted family member, etc.
I want my nephews (and any other family/friends) to feel free to ask questions about our experience(s) concerning our children, but I do not want to be turned-off by really intrusive questions or negative wording they might use. I guess, I am hoping that there is a really good book out there that would take care of some of these concerns for me.
I know there will always be people that ask/say hurtful things, but I hope to nip some of it in the bud concerning relatives. If there is a way that I can help to educate them, then that would be super!
Has anyone experienced nieces, nephews, etc. that are jealous (of the new adopted baby) and got off to a rough start? I do not know how our nephews will react to not being the only grandchildren anymore. I just hope and pray that any disagreements they have with their cousins will not be "below the belt"...concerning adoption (i.e. You are not really our cousin!; You are not really Poppa and Grandmama's grandchild!, etc.). That is one reason I would like to find a good book now (before the baby comes). Hopefully, the boys will be better prepared and understand adoption better.
I really do not think that this will be much of an issue (with my nephews), but I just would rather be safe than sorry!
Any suggestions/comments are very much appreciated. Thanks!!!
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I am just wondering if anyone else is watching Dr. Phil right now? I am tearing up about this poor little boy (that was adopted from India). His adoptive Mom tells him he is stupid and that she wishes they had never adopted him. She wants to send him back!!!
I am appalled!!!!!!!! I am going to keep watching in the hope that a positive adoption story will be shared.
Please pray for this little boy and his adopted parents. He is a special needs child that needs lots of love. I pray that his adoptive parents will find acceptance and bond with him.
The more I watch the more shocked I am! Oh, me!!!
What do you all think? Let's hope the rest of the show is uplifting and shows adoption in a positive light.
Elaine
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Congratulations, Mary! My husband and I just started the process back in January! We are all set to go to the March orientation weekend.
Best wishes on your journey. Keep us posted on your progress!!!
Elaine