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  2. Things Infertile Folk Hate to Hear

    in Looking to Adopt

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    One thing that I have gotten over and over again is people that seem to pity us for adopting! They say things like how blessed we will be for our good deed...like we took in a leper or something! blink.gif

    They also say what a lucky little girl Makayla is. I tell them very quickly that we are lucky! Lucky to be a family, lucky to have our health, etc.

    I have also had several people tell me they admire me because they could not do it (raise someone else's children)!!! ph34r.gif

    When we first applied for adoption my grandmother was trying to "teach" me about adoption... rolleyes.gif . Her best friend, Martha, adopted two boys back in the 1950's. Grams said that Martha always introduced her boys as her "adopted children". Since Martha did it...then it must be the best way, right? dry.gif Grrr...

    Grams asked me if that is how I plan on introducing my children to people. I said NO! When she asked why not...I asked Grammie what Martha would have thought if everytime Mark and Greg had introduced her they called her their "adoptive Mother". Grammie got the point..case closed!!!! wink.gif

    So many people have said so many out-of-the-way things... I have just lost track! Mostly it has been strangers or acquaintances but occassionally it has unfortunately been family. sad.gif

    We try to take it in stride. Some comments we laugh off after the fact...others make my blood boil!

    Elaine

  3. Baby Announcements 2006

    in New Arrivals

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    The pic of little Matthew is just precious! Congratulations Erika, Dan, and big brother Danny!!! I can only imagine how pleasantly surprised and tired ( tongue.gif ) Mom and Dad are!!!

    We look forward to becoming a family of four as well. Best wishes!!!

    Elaine

  5. INQUIRY

    in Looking to Adopt

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    It is exciting, isn't it Donna???!!! With every hurdle you clear you're one step closer to finding the little person you are meant to parent. smile.gif

    Try to enjoy the ride...there is so much fun and anticipation to be had along the way.

    Best wishes!!!

  8. Determining God's will

    in Looking to Adopt

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    Faith has played a big part in my life.

    Several cousins in my family (both maternal and paternal) are adopted. I can't remember a time in my life when I didn't know what adoption meant. Since several family members were adopted it was just as "normal" in our family as that of a biological blessing.

    Mickey and I assumed we would have at least one biological child and adopt at least one child as well. I never questioned my fertility (which is pretty silly considering infertility runs on both sides of the fam).

    Eventually, having lots of health complications I was diagnosed with PCOS (poly cystic ovarian syndrome). This is one of the leading causes of infertility.

    Something that is very important for me to keep my hormones balanced is to take The Pill. Without it my hormone levels are so out of whack. That being said...I never have been off birthcontrol. In my case, birthcontrol is not to control births but instead it is to help control my health.

    At the time of my diagnosis, Mickey and I decided that God had other plans for us...that may never include biological children. We have embraced what is and decided then and there that infertility was not going to define us.

    Adoption is the beautiful way that we have decided to expand our family. We embrace it with heart and soul.

    The choices we have made are not "second best". We truly believe we have followed the path that we were meant to take.

    God planted those "adoption seeds" in my heart while I was still a teenager (I knew even then we would adopt at least one child). Through faith and prayer those little "seeds" did not lie dormant, but instead have grown and flourished. The Planter knew what seeds to plant and where to plant them. Because of His goodness our family is now in bloom like a lovely garden. smile.gif

  14. Home Study

    in Looking to Adopt

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    I would ask Abrazo if they knew of anyone in your area. Also, do you know anyone in your area that has adopted? You might could get a good idea of a great social worker in your area by asking around. Word of mouth is great for leading you to a great social worker or keeping you from hiring a sorry one. I would make sure that you know what Abrazo's standards are concerning soc. workers before hiring one.

    Hope this helps. Keep us posted on your journey!

    Elaine

  16. Quips & Quotes for Grandparents

    in The Family Room

    Posted

    Ok, here is a joke:

    One Sunday morning just before church little Johnny (all cleaned up in his Sunday best) slipped in a huge mud puddle.

    His Mama and Grannie were horrified to see his best clothes soaked with mud and water!

    Johnny's mother threw her hands in the air and shouted," Johnny, every time you pull a stunt like this you give me another gray hair!!!"

    Johnny slowly looked at his gray haired Grannie and said, "Well, if that is the case, Mama, then you must have been an awful kid..."

    Elaine biggrin.gif

  20. Hi, I am Noah.

    in The Family Room

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    Noah,

    I am so happy for you. Becoming a big brother is very exciting, isn't it? Our little girl, Makayla, found out in January that she is becoming a sister. Isn't that cool?

    I know you will be a big help to your parents with your new sibling. Best wishes for a healthy little brother or sister (or both tongue.gif ).

    Your Friend,

    Elaine

  22. Baby Announcements 2005

    in New Arrivals

    Posted

    Babies, babies everywhere!!!!!!!!!! smile.giftongue.giflaugh.gifsmile.gif Congrats to all of the new families! May God bless you with a wonderful New Year loving your sweet little person.

    All of you Parents-in-Waiting...hang in there! Your little ones birth announcement will be posted for all of us to see before you know it. We can't wait to celebrate with all of you!

    Elaine

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