Hey you guys....
I placed about 4 years ago... Even though I was in my late 20's, I failed to tell my parents about my pregnancy or placement. In fact, people in my daily life were not privy to this, because I didn't really ever show. I told my mother (in an airport as she boarded her plane - "do not try this at home kids", about 4 months after the birth. It was time, just not the place. My mother was stuck on a place with a couple of pictures, an AP profile and my adoption papers. The poor woman was heartbroken, shocked, dismayed... need I say more? Mostly, she was sad that I had not shared this with her not only during my pregancy, but right afterwards. She supported my decison, however she told me that she hurt for me and the isolation and despair I must have felt.
I have one sister who is 2 years younger than me. Needless to say, to this day.. my sister who I am so close to, still does not know. I advise you to tell your loved ones as soon as possible. It is more hurtful to you, and them the more that time goes by.
My mother encourages me whenever the subject comes up, to tell my sister. I am just so scared that she will not forgive me for keeping such a secret.
Secrets in families, in relationships are destructive. I know in time, I will be able to share my experience with my sister.
For those of you facing this now... be honest. Be upfront. Do it now, the longer time goes on, the more difficult it will become. In additon, you always "risk" someone finding out on their own. It is better coming from you.
Good luck!