tots

Hello windycity!!!! We are so happy to hear that you are growing your family. When we told our first BP that we were adopting again at first she was a little sad but she said that she knew that it would happen again. She was happy for us, but she I think that her biggest fear was what would that do with the time that we spent with her. I think that it was so important for us to make sure that we assured her that the second baby would not affect the time that she got with Addison. I also think that it was important for us to make sure that she knew that just because we would have another birthmother in our lives that our relationship with her(our first BP) would not change. We wanted her to know that we plan on making it work for all people involved and that the first priority was the kids and that they knew they are loved by all. Once we got through that part I found that she was comforted and she started asking questions about how the adoption process was going and if we had been talking with birthmomthers. I hope that this helps! Stacey

We know that risk is a scary word, but we also know that God wouldn't put us in a situation if we weren't supposed to be there. There are never any guarantees in life, but the one thing that I do know is that the two best days of our lives were when we talked to our two bithmothers who, through the grace of God, have shared the incredible gift of life with Jason and I. We are still unsure of the future and what questions our daughters will have for us and Addison, who is now 4, is starting to ask about where babies come from. I think that the she thinks all babies are picked up in Dallas. I do know that the rewards far out weigh the risks. I think that many people are scared of the unknown( I know that we are), but that's when you need to put your faith in God and know that He is leading you down the right path. Children are such a blessing and every night before I go to to bed I thank the good Lord for the two angels in my house, risk and all. Stacey

I don't think that gender should matter. The thing that I feel should matter the most is the relationship that you build with the birthmother. My question is what if you match with a birthmother and think that she is having the gender of baby that you want and then find out later that a mistake was made and the baby is actually the other gender. I know that it doesn't happen very ofter, but it does happen. Would you unmatch for that reason? I just feel that God will bring the right birthmother and families together and that gender doesn't matter. What we see as our family may not be the same thing that God sees, and afterall, isn't His plan the one that we are supposed to follow. That is just my opinion and I don't mean to disrespect anyone who feels differently. Tots