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  1. Preparing the Relatives

    in The Family Room

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    Yikes, it is sad to read through these but even sadder is how many I have heard with my own ears (or twists of these - in different words.) We even heard the exact collard greens one (sick and sad) when we told someone we were open to any ethnicity/race. I just said that no child I know likes collard greens so that was not going to be an issue in our family. It's so hard to know what to respond in a polite-ish but firm way.

    I love my babies and I just hope that we can help educate those around us before they can understand these types of comments! I like at the end how she says we all need to keep reading and keep learning! So true.

  4. Selecting the right family for your baby

    in Considering Adoption?

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    My experience..

    When I spoke to the AP's I picked it just "felt right" on a personal level! I didn't know what to expect when I called. I was sure they were going to be just as nervous as I was. They were the 2nd PIW I spoke to and on our subsequent conversations I felt connected to her as a friend. I thought that if I met her outside this situation that we could be friends. The 2nd thing that made me feel wonderful is that they felt the need to connect to their current child's BP's. Even though those BP's had chose not to continue an open relationship w/ them they continue to send pictures, letters, etc to the agency. That made me feel like they really wanted this to be an open adoption, do what's best for their son and that it wasn't just an "easy" way to obtain a child/family for themselves.

    The 1st couple I spoke to were very nice and had never adopted before. When I asked about how open they wanted their adoption to be they were unsure. They weren't certain as to when they would tell the child they were adopted and how they would tell him. That concerned me and I never called them back.

    When I finally met them and their son, there was no doubt that if I were to go through w/ the adoption, this family was sent to me and I was sent to them. smile.gif Once they met my older children, they took them under their wings and embraced them. They made them feel included and assured them they would always be a part of their brothers life.

    Although it hasn't been very long since they have taken my son home, they have exceeded every expectation I could imagine.

    I hope this helps some BP's.

    Monica, you know how blessed we feel to have you and your girls, and of course the cutest little man in our lives! Not a day goes by that we don't think of you and pray for you and are thankful for you. We are as committed as ever to make the best of a difficult situation... we are so aware of the pain you feel. We know that we weren't brought together by accident and we look forward to a future of watching these beautiful boys grow up together with you in our lives. We feel such excitement when we hear how Aria and Elida are excelling in school and sports and all the sweet things they say and do. They are great big sisters. When we think of how you all embrace not only Nico but Luke also it really touches our heart.

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  7. Celebrity Adoptions

    in Looking to Adopt

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    Please, please tell me that this could not really happen. It is hard to believe she wants an "unwanted" child when from all appearances she didn't want her own child. The whole situation is so incredibly sad and I just hope that in time the truth (the whole truth - whatever it is!) will come out and there will be some justice for this little one.

  9. Baby Announcements 2011

    in New Arrivals

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    Happy for your family, Andrea! Strange to think that at the picnic in Louisville maybe Esperanza was already born and you could have never expected the divine twists and turns that made her a part of your family! God bless you all as you get to know her! She's precious!

  10. Picking & Choosing

    in Looking to Adopt

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    Don't worry, Amy. When we first had Luke a stranger came up and said she sympathized with me having to lose my baby weight. Nice!!! :P We have a lot of questions about Luke's wild hair too! Often people ask if I had heartburn. Strange but maybe that's an old wives tale? Charlie's hair is cute so take it as a complement! :D

  12. Putting up a Praise!!!

    in Abrazo's Chapel Potluck

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    Today is an ordinary day, but that is what makes it so extraordinary! I have just been overcome today that we are living the life we always hoped to live. We have a curious almost 15 month old who just brings joy to every moment. We've been walking to see what animals we could find, we've been in the little pool, we've read books... it just feels like such a privilege! Trying so hard to soak in every little memory and live in the moment. My heart is just so full of happiness today!!!!!!!!!!! To those waiting... keep the faith. We didn't think the day would come when our dreams would come true, but they have. It is worth the wait!

  19. Adoptive Breastfeeding

    in Looking to Adopt

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    There's already a lot of information and opinions about this topic, but just thought I'd share having adopted fairly recently. Breast feeding our child after placement was not something we looked into or desired to do. Maybe that makes me terribly strange, but I was more than happy to bottle feed. I can truly say that I believe we have bonded with our child and that he is very healthy having been formula fed from birth. I will say that especially the first two weeks my husband also really enjoyed participating in the feeding (we did every other till he went back to work). No matter how the baby is fed, I felt it was an intimate and bonding time just meeting his needs by feeding him. We did not have the opportunity to meet our child's birth family and I would have certainly felt uncomfortable doing that without discussing it first with them. Also, one thing about adoption is that it is so unpredictable as far as timing, things possibly changing after the child's birth, early arrivals, short times from matching till placement, etc. I personally think the more flexible in their expectations the adoptive family is the better - due to so many circumstances outside of our control. I think it would be frustrating and maybe rob a family of joy if the focus was more on things like breast feeding preparation etc. than just being in the moment and going with the flow and soaking in every minute without a lot of distractions. That is totally just my opinion and I know everyone has different desires and needs, so what was right for us certainly is not right for everyone else. Just sharing from personal experience. I have been scolded by another adoptive mom for NOT breastfeeding (she thought I was shortchanging my son) but that does not change how I feel.

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  22. APPLICATION

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    YAY!!! Brianna called today and invited Scott and I to orientation! It was so exciting to tell Scott and we can't wait to head down to San Antonio!

    That's great! You'll find that all the timing on things will work out just right :)

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