RHSegura
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Bottom line is really that It doesn’t matter if we are raising our natural children, adoptive children, step-children, foster children..If you have to set the guidelines and rules, enforce consequences, say NO/YES defending on the situation, we are going to run into those times that we will not be the favorite parent, may not even make the top two list, this lifelong job/position we have is/will not always be a popular one.
I think this is a wonderful summary of parenthood! It's not always easy, and our children will not be happy with us all the time. It makes me nervous to think about the pre-teen/teenage years but like everything else it is one day at a time covered in lots of prayer!
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Yesterday we celebrated our 28th wedding anniversary.. We had a good day, the three of us worked in the yard in the morning and then had a late lunch/ dinner.. Best ways for us to celebrate all milestones in life are to spend our time with family no matter how we are doing it..
To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you're wrong admit it;
Whenever you're right shut up. –Ogden Nash
Happy Anniversary!!! I love the quote!!!
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Abrazo is currently seeking homestudied families (preferably within Abrazo's community) for a trio of biracial (part African-American) cases due between now and the end of the year. (One of these expectant mothers wishes to only consider Texas couples.) Please contact Brianna for further information.
I will pray these little ones will find their forever home, and that their moms will find great matches. We are not in any position to adopt again right now, but boy, how I wish we were!
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Happy Grandparent's Day, Mari!! Your granddaughter is beautiful and blessed to have you involved in her life.
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Oliver has begun praying this week. We've done it together many times... I ask him to do "prayer hands" and we say "Dear God" together before I name family members he knows and then we say "Amen" together.
He was playing with his toys in the corner the other day and I heard him say "Dear God...mumblemumblemumble... Boo Boo kitty. Amen." Steven found the most raggedy, sad, wounded 6-week-old kitten last weekend and brought him home. After a trip to the vet, the kitten took up residence in an out-of-the-way shower stall in our house. Ollie stands outside the shower door and talks to what he's started calling "boo boo kitty" every day and we say "Get better soon, kitty!" He took that to prayer the other day and appealed to God for a quick fix for our buddy Boo Boo Kitty. So sweet.
His B has also been battling the flu this past week or so, and we've been putting our prayer hands together for her every morning and every night. He's started giving what looks like a fist pump when he says "Amen!"
That is way too cute! Ollie has such a sweet personality.
Luke usually tries yelling "Amen" through the whole prayer at dinner - I think he wants to finish it sooner so he can go ahead and eat... although he usually manages to sneak a bite during the prayer anyway!!
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Mandi (and anyone else please chime in) since you've been so obliging to answer questions...
Maybe you will get to this in your story, but I was just wondering at what point in your pregnancy did you consider adoption? Did you think about it from when you found out or well into the pregnancy?
In our situation, our son's birthmom decided at the very end of her pregnancy (we were matched about a week or so before birth). I think she had tried to work some other things out and things were just not falling into place for her, sadly.
I just wonder how this affects the healing post placement. If a woman goes through the majority of her pregnancy planning to parent, then circumstances change and she chooses adoption - I wonder if that is harder mentally not to have that time to prepare? If someone chooses adoption early on then maybe mentally they are more prepared (thought it would still not be easy!)
So, just thinking out loud here and wondering what your experience has been.
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When E&J called and we talked for a long time we clicked and i knew with every fiber that i had found Rileys future parents and my friends.And everytime we talk even in text or in deep conversation i am reminded that we are all a perfect match.
That is great. When it clicks, it clicks. I think sometimes it is not even something you can put your finger on but a gut feeling, like you said!! I love that you found future parents AND friends!
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Mandi (or anyone else!), from an adoptive parent side I'd love to hear your take on this. What was it about the couple you chose that gave you that connected feeling with them? It is so fascinating to hear people's stories... sometimes it seems to be a personality trait, a certain thing you have in common, or something else!
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Congratulations Jayson and Kelli!!! Wishing you and the first family a lifetime of happiness and connection as you watch this sweet little man grow up!
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Hope you have a wonderful, refreshing vacation!!! Sometimes it just feels so good to get away for a little bit! Please let us know how it goes!
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Congratulations and prayers for a hurting heart.
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Oh, my...
What wonderful motivation to adopt... <insert sarcasm!>
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Welcome to the world, baby Grayson!!! Congratulations on his arrival to Ryan, Becky and his first family! Prayers that you all know a lifetime of happiness and a wonderful connection between families.
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Tears!!! So happy you have all found each other and that all the ups and downs have led to this truly miraculous day!! Blessings on you all - the new parents, the first family and a sweet baby girl!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I love seeing the photos of your big, beautiful family. I think you offer a perspective that is so valuable!
Our second son's birthmom is traveling to our home on Monday to stay for a few days and I hope I will see the same joy in her eyes that I see in your daughter's eyes with Sloane.
That’s wonderful… I am sure she will have the joy in her eyes, which I translate to joy of a mother’s heart shinning through her eyes, I would think it be impossible not to see in any first-mom. I’ll be thinking of you guys next week sending positive prayers and thoughts your way. Excited to hear how it goes for all.
Love to all
Thank you! I truly hope it will be a special time for her. We had a trip planned to Texas for Andrew's first birthday (on the 21st) and are looking forward to that. His older sisters are especially excited. Monica was given a buddy pass for a plane ticket so she is planning to come up this Monday - Friday. It will be a busy but good two weeks! We appreciate your prayers and thoughts! This year has been so tough on her so I am hopeful she will enjoy the time getting to know him better and feel more connected. Also, she'll be able to see him in his home environment and then celebrate that first special birthday in their home when we travel down the following week. We've stayed in close touch through the year but nothing can beat a real face to face visit!
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I love seeing the photos of your big, beautiful family. I think you offer a perspective that is so valuable!
Our second son's birthmom is traveling to our home on Monday to stay for a few days and I hope I will see the same joy in her eyes that I see in your daughter's eyes with Sloane.
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Thanks for all the encouragement. Journaling is a great idea. Both Tim and I started our own "journals" when we sent in our inquiry. He does videos and I started wirting to our children, so they would know how much they are loved even before we knew how we would become a family. We are from the Memphis area, Collierville to be exact. It is great that there is such a large adoptive community here, I am sure we will get involved as soon as we can. Right now we are focused on the home study and our profile!! This forum is a wealth of information and support and we love it! I guess I should get back to work now:)
There is definitely a great group in Memphis! Our 2 year old son has a 4 year old biological sister and she and her adoptive family live in Germantown. I am pretty sure that is near Collierville if I remember correctly! We are hoping to get down to visit a few times this summer!
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Well, today was an exceptionally wonderful day. Tim and I got the call we were hoping for! We were invited to orientation in August and are booking our flight from Memphis now! This is such an exciting time and we feel so blessed. Now we will work to finish everything up with our home study before orientation! On a side note, the yellow turned out beautifully.
Congratulations! One of the first of several exciting calls to come from Abrazo! I remember being thrilled to get that official invitation to attend orientation and we had a great time there! August is just around the corner, and from that point you have to be ready because you never know when more calls will come!
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I saw this story on the news and then just looked it up. Not a celebrity adoption, but gymnast Dominique Moceanu finding out she had a biological sister. The article will break your heart... "Their parents, Bricker wrote, gave her up for adoption when they found out that she had no legs." Also, "Moceanu, now 30, recounted to ABC her reaction to the letter, "It was the biggest bombshell of my life. Rage was my first emotion, had my life been a lie? I had this sister that was born who was given up for adoption, and I never knew it."
It did amaze me how many similarities they had even though they didn't know about each other!!!
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Welcome! Each step in the adoption process is exciting and nerve wracking all at once!
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We Skyped with Victor and Julie's bps for the first time today. It went SO well. The kids were much more engaged in the conversation and you could tell it meant alot to Stacey and David! Julie said her ABCs for them and Victor read them a book....even held the book so they could see the pics!
That is SO cute! I am sure that meant to world to Stacey and David!!!
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Must be the night for Skype
We talked to Luke's sister Sofia and her mom. It is funny because Luke and Sofia mostly show each other toys and little things like that! The connection wasn't good tonight and the conversation got interrupted a few times. Luke got SO upset each time asking for her! Andrew even babbled to them and it was cute! It is a great way to keep in touch. -
Wow!! What a week! Congratulations to the newest expanded family!!! Hope that your relationship will continue to grow as it has these past months!
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Wow, what a day in San Antonio. I can not imagine how difficult this decision was for this young mom. I am thankful that she gave parenting a try if that is what she felt best at the time, and she will always know she gave it her all. May she have some sweet memories to carry in her heart. Blessings and peace to her and her whole family, and to the new proud parents of this sweet baby boy.
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A Birth Grandmother's Role
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Oh, I am so sorry for your family.
Pets become such a huge part of the warmth and memories in a family. I'm so sad that Lauranda will have to say goodbye to another beloved pet.