After reading both Lisa and Tots posts (no offense taken on either), I have to agree with both. As Lisa stated, there's no harm in a couple having a preference; but they should remain open and not limit themselves. And also like Tots posted, God has a plan for each of us and alot of times it is not what we had planned for ourselves. An analogy that comes to mind is when you are young, you have this image of what your spouse will look like. Tall, dark, and handsome. When "Mr Right" comes along, isn't it funny how sometimes he is short, with red hair and freckles. But in our eyes, he is still tall, dark, and handsome b/c this is the man God had planned for you. See, we had a preference when we were young - but remained open minded. When you adopt, you may prefer one gender - but don't limit yourself. You may be shutting a door before you even get a chance to open it. I hope this makes some sort of sense and apologize if the comparison is not clear for everyone. This came to mind and I just wanted to share.
Rhonda