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You can search the forum by entering positive adoption language and you will get many results. Congratulations in your match. Jill

We would love for our next child to be a boy, but we would be perfectly happy with whatever God has in mind for us, so we won't make any requests. Cecilia has even been telling us that she wants a "broder" (brother). I asked her why and she said so she can be the only girl and not share her toys. What can I say, she knows her mind. Back to the question, I think adoptive parents should be able to choose if they want to, but they have to understand that they will have to be patient. However, I think they should also be open-minded to either sex, if it comes along. This is a very hard question. Jill

Jacquee, I love the the picture of Trenton. He is such a doll! "But that said, our journey into parenthood really opened my eyes to how wonderful God is. He brings us together is so many ways, by marriage, by birth, sometimes by tragedy, by faith, by friendships and yes, by adoption. And how we came together isn't quite as important as the fact that we are together and we're family. And for everything we've been through in becoming a family, I'd do again exactly the same way to see my son's face first thing in the morning and last thing at night." Beautifully said!!! Jill

Congratulations! Enjoy these precious moments. Jill

Congratulations on your first step! You won't believe how fast things move. Get ready for the ride of your life Jill

Thank you Webmaster for all your hard work once again! I for one am very glad that Adoptive Dad is gone. I hope that we now can go back to a peaceful and informative forum. Jill

Adoptive Dad, Get off the forum and stay off!!!! I have had enough of your belligerent attitude towards Abrazo! Remember what the movie Bambi has to say "If you can't something nice, don't say anything at all." I kept thinking if everyone ignored you, that you would go away, but I guess not. You should be thankful for Abrazo and that you even have a child. Jill Fogo For everyone else out there, sorry to even acknowledge his existence, but I can't stand it anymore.

Daryl and Brady will definately be in my prayers today. Jill

Unfortunately, I don't think you can force your spouse to "get on the same page as you." I was the unwillingly partner in our relationship. My husband didn't even want me to go through all the infertility treatments. He thought it was a waste of time and money and he hated to see me depressed after each failed month. At the time, I could not face the fact that I couldn't get pregnant and no amount of talking to me was going to make a difference. Eventually, I came around and saw that my husband had been right all along. The thing that helped me was when my mom talked to me about adoption. After that talk with my mom, the next day I sent inquiries to several adoption agencies. So, maybe talking to someone else could help. I don't think it's wrong to think of adoption as your "second choice." As we talked about at our orientation, no one sets out in life to be infertile. I think almost everyone is going to try to have a biological child before deciding to adopt. Now that we have our beautiful girl, we definately don't see HER as our second choice, she is just the one we were meant to love and parent. I don't know that any of this helps. Jill

When we first started looking for an agency, I think I requested information from about everyone in the state. Every packet I received, I would read it and throw it away. Then one day the information from Abrazo arrived and I couldn't wait for my husband to get home and read it. We knew immediatly that this was the one for us. Go with your gut reaction! Good luck! Jill

Great adoption stories! Thanks for sharing. Jill

I agree! The information that other forum members give you is invaluable. Plus, when you are a parent in waiting, I believe it gives you hope to read other success stories. Don't be shy!!!! Jill

Wow, that is a nice problem to have for any prospective adoptive parents. Oh how I wish we could afford to adopt another child right now. We are getting baby fever once again, but don't have the financial resources. We are still paying on a loan (thankfully from a family member) from our last adoption. Maybe in a few years! Jill

Your post brought tears to my eyes! I'm so happy for you and your family! Jill

I thought this was great! Somebody Said : > Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get > back to normal after you've had a > baby......"somebody" doesn't know that once > you're a mother, normal is > history. > > Somebody said a mother's job consists of wiping > noses and changing diapers...... "somebody" > doesn't know that a child is much more than the > shell he lives in. > > Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by > instinct......"somebody" never took a > three-year-old shopping. > > Somebody said being a mother is > boring......"somebody" never rode in a car > driven by a teenager with a driver's permit. > > Somebody said teachers, psychologists, and > pediatricians know more about children than > their mothers......"somebody" hasn't invested > her heart in > another human being. > > Somebody said being a mother is what you do in > your spare time......"somebody" doesn't know > that when you're a mother, you're a mother ALL > the time. > > Somebody said "good" mothers never raise their > voices......"somebody" never came out the back > door just in time to see her child wind up a > golf ball into the neighbor's kitchen window. > > Somebody said you don't need an education to be > a mother......"somebody" never helped a fourth > grader with his math. > > Somebody said you can't love the fifth child as > much as you love the first......"somebody" > doesn't have five children. > > Somebody said a mother can find all the answers > to her childbearing questions in the > books...."somebody" never had a child stuff > beans up his nose. > > Somebody said the hardest part of being a > mother is labor and delivery...... "somebody" > never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the > first day of > kindergarten. > > Somebody said a mother can do her job with her > eyes closed and one hand tied behind her > back...."somebody" never organized seven > giggling Brownies to sell cookies. > > Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after > her child gets married......"somebody" doesn't > know that marriage adds a new son or > daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings. > > Somebody said a mother's job is done when her > last child leaves home ......"somebody" never > had grandchildren. > > Somebody said being a mother is a side dish on > the plate of life ......"somebody" doesn't know > what fills you up. > > Somebody said your mother knows you love her, > so you don't need to tell her......"somebody" > isn't a mother. > > Pass this along to all the "mothers" in your > life!!!!!! Jill

I want to say congratulations to the F.O.G.s!!! I am so happy that we have all found beautiful children to complete our lives. Special thanks to all the wonderful birthparents out there. We love you all. Jill

Dear MOMOFLORI, I think sending a card is a wonderful idea. Just remember that there is no such thing as too much love. This child will be lucky to have so many loving people in his or her life.

Gabbi, I would suggest talking to someone at Abrazo. They have a wonderful staff that I am sure can help answer some of your questions. Just remember, you must do what is right for you and your baby. Good Luck!