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  2. Nursery Notes

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    Elizabeth just reading your post gives me chills. Please tell Pamela and Angela thank you for all of their efforts and for being so dedicated to finding the right placement for this special little one. His life has already started out with so much love and he doesn't even know it yet! Adding prayers for the couple who are attempting to take him home, God bless these people and clear their path. And God bless the hospital staff that they may have patience and continue to give such loving care to this child.

  5. Open Adoption

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    Bless you Tina for your courage. You handled this so well (and so much better than I would have!) I believe that every time we have the opportunity to help educate others about open adoption we are helping our children.

    Now for the soapbox!

    Have these people never known any adult adoptees that long to know of their birthfamily? Do they not know any birthmothers or fathers? (They're kidding themselves if they say not!) Would they want their daughter to be told to get over it?

    I know this is your chosen church but it makes me angry and sad to the core that they would be so closed minded.

    Maybe your church should have me and Layna's birthmother as guest speakers, we could teach them a thing or two about unselfishness and the love in open adoption. ;) (Or we may scare them to death with our "healthy boundries"! :blink: )

    Jada we were posting at the same time! My thoughts exactly!

  10. Baby Announcements 2007

    in New Arrivals

    Posted

    Twenty tiny fingers, twenty little toes...

    Prayers are doubly-answered, and a brand new family grows!

    Our first Innies now are parents, in time for Christmas Day,

    their lives forever changing, in twice-as-nice a way.

    Abrazo joyfully announces the placement of Teeny and Tiny, our twin preemies, with a previously-childless couple who graduated from our 11/07 orientation weekend, InDecision '07, and officially joined our agency just a month ago. We thank the birthcouple for their courage in making such a dream-come-true possible, we thank the birthgrandparents for their support, and we wish the joyous adoptive parents and their precious little son and daughter every happiness in their new life together. Merry Christmas!

    JOY! JOY! JOY! God IS good!!!!!!!!! Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  12. Is Adoption the Wrong Choice?

    in Considering Adoption?

    Posted

    Jada,

    As always, I so appreciate your view point on these sensitive threads. You do have a different perspective than many of us on the forum, and I always respect your viewpoints, but I must say that I disagree with this statement:

    "All these people who want to adopt,all they want is a possesion too!! Sorry but that is the truth."

    I would never, ever even pretend to know what you or any birthmother has gone through. I believe that until you walk in someone else's shoes you truly cannot understand their feelings. The same is true with adoptive families Jada. Not ALL adoptive families, I agree, but the majority of the families here as Abrazo does have a criteria for the adoptive families to have documented infertilty. Our struggle with infertility has changed our lives in ways you may never understand. We are not wealthy people. We can't afford trips to France or steak and shrimp every night as you put it. I clip coupons everyday, we live regular lives, but the one thing we can't have is biological children. I would never consider my daughter a posession. But my passion to be a mother runs as deep as yours or any birthmothers. That I can say. I still grieve the babies I have lost in early pregnancy. I know loss on a different level as a mother. Please don't lump all adoptive parents together. I believe in my heart that the majority of adoptive parents feel they are doing the right thing. The right thing for the CHILD, not for themselves or for a birthfamily. My daughter's birthmother chose adoption not because of financial reasons. This was not an issue. But she chose adoption out of love for her child and her other children. She grieves everyday and shares this with me but she feels it out weighs what she HAS given her daughter. Just because she may be able to afford to have kept her (food and shelter) in her home does not mean that it would have been in the best interest of her child. She wants a better life for her child than she could forsee being able to give her.

    Thank you for posting your views. I know I have learned so much from your posts, but please try and remember that we as adoptive parents (at least my husband and myself) are trying to do the right thing for our daughter and her birthfamily and this has nothing to do with the adoption business or posessions. I also don't believe anyone here was trying to be insensitive and I'm sorry if it sounds that way.

    Donna

  17. Nursery Notes

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    I know the PERFECT family! (And pray they've already made that call!) ;)

    I agree with Donna. I hope this special family that I think Donna is referring has made that call. Girls are really precious. Sisters would be even better. :unsure:

    I'd buy someone a "Bahama Mama" if she'd share a little secret!!!!! ;):P

  22. Nursery Notes

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    "but just don't think we could provide the attention and time these children deserve."

    Just something to ponder....... Even the healthiest newborns may take more "time and attention" than you may think. We DID adopt a newborn. We were blessed to be in the delivery room. And our sweet Layna truly did not stop crying and rarely slept for 4 entire months. Colic will do this. Would we change a thing? NO WAY! But please don't bank on a newborn being any "easier or less time consuming" than two toddlers. ALL children deserve all the time and attention they can get. ;)

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