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dbernados

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  1. For every prospective parent who secretly worries that hearing from the birthparent(s) after the adoption might feel invasive... and for every parent who overcame that fear and embraced open adoption only to find their birthparents are not as ready to keep in touch as they'd hoped...

    I'm taking the liberty of reprinting part of a recent note mbell posted under her group thread, because I think it illustrates so beautifully why openness matters (particularly the next-to-last sentence, which I have emphasized in bold):

    Thanks to everyone who shares in my excitement (about the letter we got from our daughter's birthmom after not hearing from her for nearly a year)!

    While I have continued to send letters and lots of pictures to Kate's birthmom, I did not know if she was geting them, or if I was telling her the things she wanted to know, etc. It was so good to hear that she has received our packages and loves the letters and seeing Kate's smiles in the pictures. Just that feedback was so great.

    But she also reiterated that she was glad she had chosen us -- what better words are there to hear from the person who entrusted us with a piece of herself??!! It made my day!

    I am crying as I read this post as we are going through the same thing right now. We have not spoken with our birthmother for about 2 months now. It has been so difficult not knowing how she is doing especially when we were used to speaking with her at least once a week. This gives me hope that maybe soon we will be able to speak with her. We do speak with her mother weekly but even she has not heard from her. She is going through some really hard times right now so please keep her in your prayers.

    Thanks for the sparkle of hope!

    Donna

  2. Congratulations Doug & Jennifer! I feel like I know you guys since I watched you on Adoption stories. I am so happy for the whole family. We will pray for you guys as you go through this wonderful transition.

    Congrats also to Ernie & Gina...your baby is just beautiful!!!

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