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  1. Trips to Texas

    in Looking to Adopt

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    We are from Glenolden Pa.

    How many trips to Texas do we have to make during the Adoption Process? I know we have to go to the Orientation weekend.

    Texas law says the birth mom has 60 days to change her mind.Does that mean we have to stay in Texas those 60 days????

    Thanks Alicia

    Hi Alicia,

    We lived in Pittsburgh, PA when we went through the adoption process the first time. My husband and I went to Orientation and then returned 2 months later to pick up our son, Ethan. Then Ethan and I came back to San Antonio during the summer to visit with his birthfamily. We all returned that December for finalization. We try to see Ethan's birthfamily at least twice a year because the relationship with them is vital for Ethan and us. We have grown very close to our birthfamily and try to see them as much as possible. Once you meet your birthfamily and grow that relationship the trips to Texas don't seem as daunting. We wish that we had more money and time off to see them more than we do.

    About the 60 days, based on all of my investigations, that would only apply to a private adoption (one that you would probably go through an attorney versus an adoption agency. If you go through Abrazo after the 48 hours the birthmother can relinquish her rights and that is irrevocable. The birthfather laws have changed since the adoption of our first son so that is a little more complicated but shouldn't be longer than 30 days after the birth of the baby if they are not married. Hope that helps. Orientation does answer most if not all of your questions and really opens your mind and eyes to open adoption.

    Donna

  4. Baby Announcements 2009

    in New Arrivals

    Posted · Edited by dbernados

    Sandi, Scott & Skye,

    Congratulations! We are so excited for you guys. I know that it will be difficult for them birth mother but I know that it gives her some comfort knowing that they will be with their sister and her loving parents. We love you all so much!

    Can't wait to see their picture in the gallery!

  6. Home Study

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted · Edited by dbernados

    I wanted to clarify the number of visits required. We lived in PA when our original homestudy was done almost 3 years ago. I have spoken with several social workers in GA and we will need a complete home study; however, GA only requires 4 visits. Do we need to have 5 visits as we did in our previous home study or since we are againers can we go with the GA requirements of 4 visits? HELP!![/

  15. What made you pick Abrazo?

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted · Edited by dbernados

    Our friends, Maralou & Craig, told us about their adoption experience with Abrazo so we were really leaning toward using them (Thanks guys for introducing us to them :rolleyes: )!!. We investigated a lot of other adoption agencies but liked Abrazo's approach and when we went to Orientation it sealed the deal for us. How many adoption agencies do you know of that have an orientation weekend??? I don't know of any other than Abrazo. It gives Abrazo a chance to get to know each couple personally that they are going to place a child with and it also gives the adoptive couple a chance to get to know the wonderful ladies they will be working with. Two months, almost to the day, after orientation weekend we were on our way back to Texas to pick up our little sweetheart, Ethan Ascher who is turning 2 next week.

    THANKS ABRAZO FOR ALL OF YOUR HARD WORK!! WE LOVE YOU!!!

  16. Baby Announcements 2008

    in New Arrivals

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    Congratulations on your baby boy! It brought back all of the wonderful memories of when my husband and I jetted off to San Antonio almost 2 years ago for our BOG - Now known as Ethan - the love of our life. Have fun with him, enjoy every minute with him and his birthfamily.

  18. Open Adoption

    in Looking to Adopt

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    I got that response from both of my kids adoptive parents."They were waiting for them to ask about me". UGGHHH!!! Well instead of Charlie asking he went snooping and found out he had a brother and sisters he never new about. I can only imagine how he really feels about that. I am still waiting for contact with Lindsay. I wrote a letter to her parents two years ago asking for contact and they said"She is just so busy with her life we don't think she is ready,but I am sure it will happen within the next year or so...." Again UGHHHH!!!! Last year I recieved pictures with no mention of any contact again. I don't even get pictures most of the time until around March or later(aren't reports due in by Jan?) They don't even "have the time" to send pictures ONCE A YEAR on time!!!! Where do adoptive parents get off saying their kids "are too busy" for their birthparents??? Maybe this is selfish but I was just "TOO BUSY" this year to send the "Never lose touch" letter that we were asked to send. I am soooo over it it isn't even funny. I gave these people MY child to raise and love and cherish forever but they are a"TOO BUSY" for me. Sorry but the more I think about it the more OUTRAGED I get. And now Charlie wants contact with Lindsay and I am afraid that they will deny him too. It just doesn't seem right.

    Jada,

    I am so sorry that your kid's adoptive parents are not being cooperative. I pray that they will understand SOON how important it is for them to have a relationship with you. You made the greatest sacrifice for your children's well-being. I couldn't imagine Ethan not having a relationship with his birthmother or birthfamily. That is the main reason why we chose open adoption because it is in Ethan's best interest. Keep your chin up....hopefully they will come around soon.

    Donna

  23. Open Adoption

    in Looking to Adopt

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    I agree with you so much on your comment, Michelle. People ask Tony and I questions about why we choose open adoption, aren't we afraid they will come back and get Ethan, etc..... I wouldn't want an adoption any other way especially for Ethan's sake! I want him to know who is birthfamily is, who he looks like, to have a relationship with his birthmother and so many other reasons why we choose this route. I love our birthfamily so much and count my blessings everyday that they came into our lives!!!!

    Donna

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