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  7. Open Adoption

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    Just a little insight as well. I placed once before this agency at Adoption Angels. I had no clue what to think. I knew not alot about adoption and wasnt very educated as to my rights. It was a quick decision as i was far along and desperate to find a safe place for my baby. I was given 2 profiles (again not really thinking that wasnt normal) and the reason for this was because apparently the other couples didnt want "black babies" I didnt know there last names, what city they lived in, i didnt have an address and i met them the day that i gave birth. She is 2 and still to this day dont hear from them. After she was born the phone and emails i had were not working anymore. And i remember being asked from an intake lady, "if you would win the lottery tomorrow, would that change your decision to keep your baby?" I was so dumb founded by the question. In reality im thinking YES YES i would keep my baby. But i was scared thinking if i said that they wouldnt allow me to place. I did ask why..She said, "well we want to make sure your 100% sure you want to do this. BEcause these couples spend there life savings going through the adoption process and if you decide to keep your baby, they are out of that money and may never be able to adopt again, ITs a one time thing for some people." LIKE A DUMB IGNORANT lady i still went through with it. When i found Abrazo i was SHOCKED at how an open adoption works.

    Ok that looks weird..I was commenting on some threads from before about closed adoptions...LOL

    Again, i am new to this??? LOL

    I'm so sorry that happened to you with your previous adoption at that other agency. :( Thankfully, you now know of a place with ethics and genuine concern for all of the people involved but especially for the children. I pray that your daughter's family will find you and reach out to you somehow. We all make a lot of mistakes because we don't have all the information we need. You were thinking of your baby and how best to help her with what you knew at the time. Your intentions were pure and made out of love so try to find some comfort in that. :)

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