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  4. APPLICATION

    in Looking to Adopt

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    Sounds like you are doing great! Just keep up the good work. If you're looking for other book suggestions (just to keep you really busy ;) ), Jim and I both loved Making Room in Your Hearts because it has so many real life examples of how open adoption works for all different situations. I actually just lent it to a friend of mine who was considering adoption and she and her husband loved it.

  15. Church Chat

    in Abrazo's Chapel Potluck

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    We chose our church before beginning our adoption journey but it was one part of our lives that actually made us even more comfortable with our decision to be open to any child who needed us because there is such great diversity on all levels - there are several adoptive families, many mixed race families, special ministry/outreach to those with disabilities, it has a flourishing Spanish community (so has several bilingual services on special occasions) and is a historically African American parish. We drive about a half hour in towards the city every weekend because it is such a wonderful community. Everyone has completely embraced Joseph and both the priests ask all the time how he's doing. We are so thankful we found this community.

  16. The Adoption Tax Credit

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    Sorry for the delay in responding, but it looks like Melissa has it covered, as usual :)

    The link she gave you spells everything out. Here's the direct link to the form that we sent in in September - http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/fw7a.pdf. When we sent the form off, we just included a copy of the placement agreement we received from Abrazo on placement day. That seemed to work just fine. There were no hiccups, just a normal wait time of several weeks to get the number back in the mail.

    If I can help with any more detail, please just ask.

  17. The Adoption Tax Credit

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    Thanks for all the great info. I am going to have to read through in depth. Per Melissa's post little confused if our first failed match would count as its own attempt, meaning two separate refunds since it was the same tax year and Colin's adoption won't be final until 2012.

    Guess I'll find out when we meet with accountant. Good thing I kept good records.

    Your accountant will be able to clarify this, but because some of your expenses were incurred in 2010, you can actually apply for your tax credit now (that is,if things haven't changed since we did this -- we were advised that we should go ahead and apply and not wait until the following year).

    Our situation was similar to yours - we went to orientation in 2008, took placement of Hugo in 2009, and finalized in 2010. But all of our expenses from 2008 (agency fees, orientation, travel expenses, escrow expenses, etc) added up to just shy of the credit amount, so we filed for the credit on our 2009 taxes (in 2010 - BEFORE we finalized) and got it, no problem. Then we filed for the remaining amount of the credit on our 2010 taxes, after we finalized.

    Just seemed like if we could get a chunk of the credit a year earlier, why wait? Anyway, hope this makes sense and hope your accountant is helpful!

    This is what we're planning to do, too. We applied for an adoption tax id number for Joseph as soon as we got back home from Texas and received it sometime in December, so we should be good to go.

  20. Try Skype!

    in The Family Room

    Posted

    We used Skype to introduce Joseph to my parents and Jim's mom while we were in Texas waiting for ICPC. It was wonderful! We called my mom virtually every day and Joseph really recognized her voice by the time we returned home a week later - amazing!

    After following Jocelyn's story, I was hoping to be able to use it with our birthfamily, too, but unfortunately they do not have the resources to do it. I'm hopeful that one day in the future we'll be able to use it with them, too. I think it can really be a great bridge across the miles. It certainly has been for Jim's mom who lives 2000 miles away.

  24. Positive Adoption Language

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted

    Well said, Jada. I was taken aback by those same statements. I can't imagine suggesting someone to be called a birth WOMAN - doesn't make any sense and certainly does not give the respect that birth/first mothers so rightly deserve. And to frown on saying reunion?!? I'd never heard that before and I can't imagine why that would be negative.

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