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  5. Food for Thought for Busy Parents

    in Abrazo's Chapel Potluck

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    Saw this on Facebook today and it rang true with me, I know that sometimes I get so caught up with trying to be the "perfect" mom and I forget that to Garrett I am the "perfect" mom and that I really need to enjoy these little moments because as someone said the little moments often are the big ones.

    I may lose some friends over this post but here it goes: watching Kaden fall asleep earlier tonight I reflected on the disappointment I sometimes feel that I may never be the mom that makes cake pops for every holiday or hand crafts his Halloween costumes. . .. I can build a mean fort out of twine, sheets and 3m hooks and make an impressive Smurf city out of Legos but when he was a baby I did not ...feed him homemade organic baby food and sometimes wonder if he will be as healthy as the kids who's mothers did.

    I have a friend who feels like a "bad mom" because she didn't send out Christmas Cards this year and another who is opening a new profit center for her business venture and feels "guilty"that she had to buy cookies at the store instead of hand making them for her son's school Christmas party.

    Here is my point:

    I'm Afraid that the pinterest era is turning us into wanna be Stepford freaks....I have friends who are pregnant with their first child and they are more overwhelmed with decisions like what kind of diapers the "best moms" buy than the things that will actually matter.

    As mothers, the measures I believe we should judge ourselves on are actually simple: its not the size or "pinterest-worthiness" of their first birthday cake. It's the amount of unconditional love and affection we give to our children, the values and confidence we instill in them, the quality of the time we spend with them, the examples we set for them in our actions as their role models.....this to me includes how we treat others, the way we treat ourselves, the appreciation we show for family AND our demonstrated work ethic (whether its cleaning the kitchen, volunteering, or working on your next business plan) and lastly AND MOST IMPORTANTLY the effort we put into developing their faith in GOD. If this post makes even one fb mom think twice about beating herself up because she bought the cheaper brand of diapers tonight at Walmart; then it was completely worth posting what has officially been the longest fb status I have ever written.

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  9. A Birth Grandmother's Role

    in BirthGrandparents & Important Others

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    Mari, you're so funny! It's also funny to watch how people from up North are practically DYING in 90 degree weather hahaha.

    No joke... I have a sister in law that lives in Portland Maine and the one that lives in Maryland (lived at one time in Africa)... Of course it's taken them years to get used to their weather now but when they come back to SA, they feel the heat... the humidity is the killer for them, including for my daughter who has lived in Vegas for almost 9 yrs....Good thing they aren't made of chocolate or they would melt in just 75 degree weather now…

    Personally I can tolerate cold better then heat (prefer spring and fall)… I can layer up in cold weather, but in the 100 plus temps we (I) can only take off so much in public before frightening anyone :rolleyes: , getting arrested or worse getting put in a loony jacket and locked up a different way…

    It is so funny when people come to Texas that aren't from here, the first thing they say is "Is it always this HOT here?" I tell them you should come and visit in late August and then you will know what HOT is.

    I tell people that all the time, you can always put more clothes on to stay warm but I can never take enough to get cooler!

  23. Open Adoption

    in Looking to Adopt

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    That's a great question Mandi! (As always ;) ) I know that in the past when we have been out with Garrett's birthmom I always worried someone might say who's his mom or something along those lines that might make her feel uncomfortable or hurt her feelings. I never want her to feel out of place and I want to respect her as well. I think that is another one of those things that should be discussed with one another just like what does the birthmom want to be called by/around the child.

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