Guest LISA J Posted April 17, 2001 Report Share Posted April 17, 2001 Maybe I am alone in this, but my son, that was placed in Feb. 1999 is a VERY little known fact in my family. I chose not to deal with the issue when pregnant since I had enough emotional stuff going on. My pregnancy was result of rape and then to try to discuss the thought of adoption with the grandparents was just too much when my emotions were already overloaded. So, I chose not to share either. My mother found out when I was in the hospital after giving birth. She proceeded to trample all feelings into a big messof hurt and resentment. She even tried to get me to allow her to adopt the baby. The thought of that was worse than anything....so, she, as a result of her negativity and hurtful words that continue to this day, is only very limited in info on the baby and his life. So after all the papers were handled I planned to tell my dad and other family. However, I dread his response and after two years I am wanting him to know. Since the placement I have "received " the greatest step-mom ever into my life and his. She is a very close friend and I am feeling the guilt of keeping this from them and my grandparents. "We don't have boys in my family" is my excuse for not sharing as well. This would be the only biological boy born since my dad. I know this is a cop out but I am terrified that he will not understand. My family has a Pass-it -on thing....names, traditions, etc. Out of my generation....we have 2 " step-boys" and 7 girls. And of those whove had kids there are 5 girls and 2 step-step boys. So needless to say the one i chose to place wouldve not only carried on the name but as we say in my family of 6 girls....even the odds out a little. I plan on telling them soon but I am nervous. What is the best way to say.... I placed a baby boy for adoption 2 years ago and I couldnt tell you then because it hurt too much. Sorry if I seem to ramble...nervousness does that to me Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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