I've stopped talking to family members about the relationship we have with our kids Birth Parents.
They always say oh no if you should not see them they might want the child back and take them away. I end up having to explain myself once again and get into an arguement so just don't say anything at all.
For an example: Since we adopted Ayanna as a toddler and she has the love and bond for her BP we feel it is important in order for her to embrace her new life here with us that we love and care for her BP as well. Ayanna asked me if she would ever see her BP again. I replied, yes. We will go on vacations to TX and maybe her BP could come and visit us here.
She felt comforted to know that I not only cared about her BP but was ok with her seeing her and she is and always will be able to express her love for her. She knows she will never live with her again but just to know that she will always be a phone call away and will be able to see her from time to time she feels less of a loss and knows that her BP loves her and always will and sent her to us because she wanted the best for her. We never want to feel her BP does not love her.
Open Adoption in my option is the only way. If you want what is best for the child this is the way to go. AP need to be more educated.
As for loving a child that was not biologically our was never a question for us. We are these kids parents and never question our love and devotion to them
Just my thoughts,
Linda