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Tonycpa and Linda

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  1. Open Adoption is when your talking to your daughters BF and he has mixed feelings that he has placed his daughter for adoption and wants to call you but does not want to impose.You find all this out because you as the AP made that call to him and made him feel comfortable about how true you are to the openess and keeping him as a part of her life even as far as when we go to visit them in TX to meet her birth Grandparents and her sibblings. Now how great is is that. I feel my daughter has not lost her family in TX because of the openess but has gained an additional family in NJ. Through our children we have gained her birth familes as our family and family is what its all about.You have to be true to the openess of adoption always and not just talk it. It truley is in the best interest of the children and if you have the love for your child (children) its the only way. The next step is I want to get my son's BF involved also. Since I don't have a number we are starting with some letters and pictures. Hope it works. Linda
  2. This is what openess is all about. It warms my heart. Thanks for sharing Heidi.
  3. I've stopped talking to family members about the relationship we have with our kids Birth Parents. They always say oh no if you should not see them they might want the child back and take them away. I end up having to explain myself once again and get into an arguement so just don't say anything at all. For an example: Since we adopted Ayanna as a toddler and she has the love and bond for her BP we feel it is important in order for her to embrace her new life here with us that we love and care for her BP as well. Ayanna asked me if she would ever see her BP again. I replied, yes. We will go on vacations to TX and maybe her BP could come and visit us here. She felt comforted to know that I not only cared about her BP but was ok with her seeing her and she is and always will be able to express her love for her. She knows she will never live with her again but just to know that she will always be a phone call away and will be able to see her from time to time she feels less of a loss and knows that her BP loves her and always will and sent her to us because she wanted the best for her. We never want to feel her BP does not love her. Open Adoption in my option is the only way. If you want what is best for the child this is the way to go. AP need to be more educated. As for loving a child that was not biologically our was never a question for us. We are these kids parents and never question our love and devotion to them Just my thoughts, Linda
  4. Ladies, We would love a Tots Reunion but as for number 3.... Is a definate no.... Even if I wanted it I could never convince Anthony.... I (We) know our limits and want to provide the best for our children emotionally, financially and also to have enough energy. Linda
  5. What a way to spend Thanksgiving. To all the couples that Placed.... What a special time to remember... How special. Linda
  6. Boy there has been so much to be Thankful for this Thanksgiving. How happy I am for you all.
  7. This will be a Thanksgiving you all will never forget..... And what surprise a beautiful baby Girl... Congrats to the new family and to the wonderful courageous BP... My prayers are with you all Linda
  8. Congrats on the good news.... I am crying with happy tears
  9. Me, too!!!! Praying for these little angels as they go through this transition......prayers also for the birthfamily and the Cantey's. Me three!!!!! They are beautiful children who are with a their forever family and bless their birthfamily also. My heart goes out to all.. Linda
  10. I too hope these children will be with an Abrazo family.
  11. If this happens... I have lots of people from NY that would be interested. Hope the doors open for NY and they lift that physical off address law... Linda
  12. I know how hard it is to struggle with changing what you envisioned your family will look like however; I hope someone is able to make that couragous decision! They are beautiful children! I pray they find their forever family soon! So true, we thought we were only going to have Andrew but when I saw the post about Ayanna I felt it in my heart she should be part of our family and she his. I would not have done anything different and Andrew loves her so too... If any of you feel it in your heart you that this might be right for you, you must take a chance on these two children. Glad we did... Keeps you young Linda
  13. Karen, I was thinking the same thing....If I was a PIW with no children escpecially, I would defintately do it.
  14. I so hope these two children find a loving family soon. In my heart I know they will.
  15. Congratulations, Ricky & Laurie a little girl, what alot of fun.
  16. Nita, Walker, Camile how exciting for a wonderfull family. Linda
  17. This is so exciting... Congrats to all....
  18. Julie, Welcome to the forum and the Abrazo family. There are pretty wonderful people here that have gone through the same things and totally understand. I congratulate you to making the first step to being parents. So join in on converstions. You are welcomed with open arms. PS - We welcome everyone.
  19. Wish you guys would come back to the forum.

    We miss you.

    Linda

  20. Jenny hang in there... Teena, your story brought tears to my eyes Thank you both for sharing your stories. You where brought here (Abrazo) not only to become parents but to have people all around the US that truly care and understand. I can't wait to read your stories when you become parents... Linda
  21. I also hope this little boy finds a foster home that will adopt him..
  22. Congrats on the new little girl. Enjoy every moment.....
  23. With both of our children they had not seen our profiles first and actually that was fine with us because We had a good hunch when we got off the phone there was a connection. Since our second happened so suddenly there was no time for a profile but we emailed some pictures of us with Andrew to her with a little description about us so when we talked or met she knew what we looked like. I have to agree that it has to feel right and to just be real and honest. When it happens it is the most wonderful feeling. Good luck. Linda
  24. For us adopting an older child has worked out very well. Andrew just loves Ayanna as she loves him. You would think they have been brother and sister from the beginning. I knew a while back that Andrew would have loved a sibling and this was meant to be. We did not have any time to read about any studies or anything like that and just went with what felt right. Glad we did. Not that I am not for statistics but every situation is different. I have no question in my mind and heart this was and is the right situation for us. L-
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