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  18. What made you pick Abrazo?

    in Looking to Adopt

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    I really can't add any more than what everybody else has said other than Abrazo is very open and honest. They want you to know everything and go into each situation with your eyes open. The support of everybody not just the staff is amazing. We had major emotions taking place after our son's placement. We called the office and they put us in contact with another family that went through something similar. It eased our emotions but showed us that they care and truely know their families.

  21. Open Adoption

    in Looking to Adopt

    Posted · Edited by varnervol

    Reading this just boggled my mind but I understand as Craig's grandmother until recently (or at least she quit expressing her feelings to me) felt the same way about our son's first family. I was so tired of explaining it to her that every time she brought it up I said the same thing over and over.

    N and K will always be a part of who Eli is and if it wasn't for them we would not have this wonderful son. We have to maintain this contact for him because of who he is and who he will become. I am sorry that you do not understand but this was our choice and you need to respect our choice.

    I would also get a statement ready for you and Jay to say when you are approached about "mak(ing) sure Makenzie is safe." My suggestion is Thank you for your concern but each adoption story is different. Because of our open relationship with our daughter's birthfamily we know that she is safe and have none of these concerns. If they keep pushing it just repeat the first statement and/or offer to discuss your open adoption one Sunday so that everybody will understand what an open adoption is.

    It is tiring explaining this but we have to for our children otherwise they may think we are ashamed of the adoption.

    Good Luck.

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