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ckfmem

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  1. People who have not been through the adoption process are clueless. Once you match with a birthmom, experience them relinquishing their rights (hardest day of birthparent and adoptive family life), and then take home your baby, you are a parent who has been through labor. Adoption labor is very different than natural labor, but labor none the less.

    I have a friend who is determined to let me know that I have no idea how painful labor is. She is the one clueless....I would push and be in pain for hours to know that our birthmom did not have to go through what she went through and is still struggling with. She also didn't have to experience the first 3 1/2 months of her daughters life in wonder of was the court going to give Andrew to his birthfather (who was in prison) instead of relinquish his rights. That was an awful time of worry, for us the adoptive parents and for our birthmother. She was still trying to have a relationship with him and he was contesting everything she felt.

    Labor....you go through it no matter how you become a parent.

    Enough on my soap box!!!!

  2. I can say that 4 years ago when we started trying to get pregnant it never crossed my mind that my child would not be caucasian. Who knew I wouldn't get pregnant!!!

    Anyway, when we started considering adopting we thought international (China or Russia). At first I leaned towards Russia since most of the kids are caucasion. I quickly realized that didn't matter to me. Anyway, we decided that international was not for us and started looking at domestic adoption. We had decided on Abrazo when I found out (HUGE SHOCKER) I was pregnant. Infertility treatments had worked. However, I miscarried at 8 weeks. I told my husband I was through with treatments and back to adoption.

    Our private adoption happend by a strange twist of events....God is creative at times...When we spoke with our birthmom she said that the birthfather was cajun. We really didn't care, but we were happy to know. Our birthmom is hispanic.

    I personally think we have the most beautiful little boy that is going to break hearts in about 20 years.

    I love my little hispanic/cajun guy and couldn't imagine my life without him.

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