Suzi, I think I understand what you are saying.
However, our wait from having Kaitlin (she is biological) was 11 years. The girls are 12 years apart and we started trying to have our second angel when Kait was a year old. Does that make Emma Claire any less joyful or less eventful b/c it took so long? NO WAY! Both of our children came into our lives exactly the way the Lord intended for it to. Is this easier to say while looking at both my girls, playing together and being the best sisters ever? Sure! Yes, definitely the wait at times was like a knife in my chest. I'm just so glad we listened to the Lord and continued on. We were blessed beyond anything I could have ever imagined. The family that we have created now is more amazing than I ever dreamt of.
Each child will have their own story that will make your heart melt. Don't you worry about it!! I can't wait to see when that next little one begins his/her journey to you!