Very good point Heidi!
I have found myself guilty at times...to this day. They are Emma Claire's birthparents not mine and it sometimes is hard to seperate that fact out. So, while I might use the phrase "our birthparents", I should be saying Emma Claire's birthparents. Some time ago a lot of people started using the first initial of their childrens' birthparents, I like that a lot. I think by doing that, it respects their privacy as well.
It is a learning process, that is for sure! We have been on the forum for a few years now and I am still learning things!