Joe and I were talking about open adoption this morning.
In our opinion -- those that don't want an open adoption haven't really educated themselves on open adoption. Because we feel that if they do educate themselves (by doing lots of reading), then they will feel that it's the right thing for the child.
Yes, open adoption can make adoptive parents nervous and uncomfortable. But in reality, we didn't go through with an open adoption for our (APs) benefit --- we went through with it for Gracie's benefit.
Also, I have found it easier to tackle my fears on the forefront rather than have them looming out there to resurface -- say when my child is 10 or 15, 25, etc.
Anyway for what's it's worth (which isn't much) -- that's the Luthers' opinion on the matter.