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MarceloandClaudia

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  1. A match made in heaven is all I can say... We prayed for so much for so long. It almost feels unreal that so many prayers have been answered. From an almost closed adoption to phone contact with A then phone contact with her mother, to a trip to Houston prior to placement and everything in between. This is what makes adoption and the relationships built so special. We are so emotional right now and staying focused to provide a strong, loving home for our little princess. We will be spending time tomorrow with Maya's family who have now become our family. We look forward to continued growth in our relationships and all that the future holds for each one of us. Maya is a beauty and already put a twinkle in our eyes! I can tell she is already going to be a Daddy's girl as she follows Daddy's voice. We are overjoyed and can't wait to show Maya Simone off to our parents, brothers, sister, the rest of the family and our friends!

    Love,

    Claudia

  2. Faith,

    Your feelings are those that many of us have faced. I am Mom to Dante, now approaching 4 and Nicole, just shy of 2. We were a childless couple when we came to Abrazo, but returned to adopt a second time. The wait was not long for either, but I know it can be. I truly believe not only in faith, but by seeing that the quote "not if, but when" is certainly true. Keep an open mind and heart and your child will be in your arms before you know it. When we place less restrictions on adoption, our profiles are so much easier to be shown and birthmothers have more parents to consider for their child.

    Hope this helps,

    Claudia

  3. The media needs educating. He kept saying "giving up". I thought it was good to have the word getting out there and the focus on the process being nothing to be ashamed about. Trasformational is the key word... we aren't living in the stone ages and we need to get to the point where things make sense for our generation, although open adoption has truly been around for many years... much longer than the 1980's I think. I'm hispanic and Grandparent's raise their childrens kids, while the parent still plays an "open" role in the child's life. In my opinion, this is much like open adoption, except sometimes the paperwork isn't official.

    Claudia

  4. Heartfelt thanks, on behalf of my brother and me, for all your words of comfort and prayers in remembrance of our beloved father.

    My father's death is something I have feared all my life, having been blessed with a daddy who was always not just my parent but my best friend as well. The loss of him is so devastating on many different levels. I know he is "in a better place." But my life was surely a better place with him here. My brother and I have lost both parents in just four years, and I'm left feeling as if I have suddenly lost my moorings.

    Yet I cling to the assurances of my faith, the faith of my father that promises that these earthly farewells are not the end-- that he has joined that Church Triumphant and that death has been defeated by the life everlasting.

    Daddy's body had weakened, certainly, but his soul was well, and his life was exemplary.

    In his final hours last night, when that voice which had preached so many sermons had been silenced forever and he could no longer speak, Daddy and I listened to one of his favorite hymns. I recently posted

    elsewhere but I want to share it with my Forum family, too, in hopes that it might also provide you some comfort and hope in your own times of sorrow.

    To God be the glory, forever and ever... amen.

    "...and God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes, and there shall be no more death; neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain; for the former things are passed away." -- Revelation 21:2-4

    Elizabeth,

    What a reminder that yes... it can be well with all of our souls. Thank you.

  5. Today, I remember Dr. Carlos Mohamed, one of the OB Physicians I have known and had to pleasure of working with in the last 10 years of my nursing career. He fought the battle against pancreatic cancer, but it was his time to go home after 60 years of life. May he always be remembered.

  6. Elly Mae,

    I wish you much peace and strength in your decision to place your baby for adoption. It's only now, that both my son's Birthmother and I can truly reflect on this journey we have all embarked on together... open adoption. We look back with tears, laughter and praise to God that he brought us in union with oneanother when we all needed eachother most. It was all for one reason "our" son Dante. He will always be the center and core of our relationship, but since then we realize and know very well that we were meant to be "family". Wishing and praying for what you need most now and tomorrow for your child who will enter this world with the peace from the love only you can give him or her.

    Thinking of you,

    Claudia

  7. I can just imagine who beautiful this little princess is going to be- Haiwaiian and AA- gorgeous! Hoping the perfect match is found for this special little girl.

    Tamra

    Me too, me too. This is the kind of PM I would love to be able to respond to. In a couple of years, I hope to be the one messaging the STORK. This child is going to be soooo beautiful!

    Someone, please respond!

  8. I had a lot (seriously a LOT) of doubts about weither or not I was making the right choice by choosing adoption for my son. What it boiled down to was- Did I desire to raise him solely for my own sake.

    Kristal,

    Thank you for loving your son so much that it wasn't only about you. We love you and wish you the very best!

    Hugs from the Rio Grande Valley,

    Claudia

  9. I watched Juno for the first time this afternoon. Dante sat with me for part of it... I didn't know exactly what it was about. He ran and played with sister when I saw some of the shots. I bawled at two points in the movie. Gosh, it brought back so many emotions regarding our children's Birthmothers. Marcelo rented it for me and I asked him to watch again with me tonight. I hugged the kids extra tight this evening... what miracles.

    Thinking of all Birthmother's at this time... the feeling of separation gives me an ache in the pit of my stomach.

    Claudia

  10. Today was a very special day for our family and especially Serenity Nicole. Nicole was baptized on October 10, 2007 when hospitalized for an infection. My brother and significant other were to be her Godparent's, so we planned that we would celebrate her Baptism and 1st Birthday together when they were able to come down from Boston. Today, we celebrated Nicole's Baptism at church and included her Birthparent's in a very special prayer. We thanked them for giving her life and in turn allowing us to be her parents. What an emotional day... it was just beautiful. She was spoiled with love!

  11. O.K., here goes...

    I'm just a bit confused with all this. Speaking as a Mother to a transracial child and one who is very open to a Full African American child, please explain to me why we shouldn't appreciate the ability to expand our family that we are so open to for all the right reasons? I'm sensing it's like families should be horrified that life offers possibilities. No, it's not right to place a lower material value on anyone, so are people supposed to say... I have another 10-15 thousand to give you when I know that if everyone had that much, they would prefer to use it on expanding their family again or for their current family. Is that wrong? I just don't get this. In a perfect world, this wouldn't be happening, but let's get real.

    I for one feel I have beeen misread at one point regarding this view. I've never once said my child is worth anyting less than "EVERYTHING", but regardless wanting to adopt AA and seeing the opportunity of what the lesser amount can do as a whole is viewed like we just want to be cheap or something.

    Please explain.

    Claudia

    I don't want any particular person to take offense to the above, but it's just my personal passionate take on the issue.

  12. O.K., here goes...

    I'm just a bit confused with all this. Speaking as a Mother to a transracial child and one who is very open to a Full African American child, please explain to me why we shouldn't appreciate the ability to expand our family that we are so open to for all the right reasons? I'm sensing it's like families should be horrified that life offers possibilities. No, it's not right to place a lower material value on anyone, so are people supposed to say... I have another 10-15 thousand to give you when I know that if everyone had that much, they would prefer to use it on expanding their family again or for their current family. Is that wrong? I just don't get this. In a perfect world, this wouldn't be happening, but let's get real.

    I for one feel I have beeen misread at one point regarding this view. I've never once said my child is worth anyting less than "EVERYTHING", but regardless wanting to adopt AA and seeing the opportunity of what the lesser amount can do as a whole is viewed like we just want to be cheap or something.

    Please explain.

    Claudia

  13. I also think this is a great topic to explore as parents. Dante and Nicole have all they need. Sometimes, when I think about some of the things other parents buy for their kids, I think we pale in comparison... yet I think we do and buy so much. Dante is 21/2 years old and honestly we have really only purchased him about 4 toys. On his first Birthday, he received enough toys to last a long time. That's because we asked for no gifts please. I think in many ways I'm afraid if we create that monster "I WANT MORE ALL THE TIME" then we have done it to ourselves and done our children a great dis-service. That will last a life time. Growing up, my siblings and I made up games, made our own games and fiddled around with everyday objects. We even made our own slip and slide out of a plastic used to cover furniture while painting. It was fun, because we didn't know better. I truly love looking back on the days when we had little luxuries growing up. It makes me feel so blessed and honored to have what we do today. I know we worked hard to be where we are and my plan is to find a way to show the same to our children. It all starts in our home. Really, one day it won't matter what other's think... I'm for real. I care about respect and that is earned. Material objects are great, but you have to have a strong inner being and not just a superficial shell that will crack at any moment.

    Great topic,

    Claudia

  14. Melissa,

    I agree. Any money you don't have to pull from the air is great! :P We had a garage sale and enchilada plate fundraiser. We did get some help from my in-laws at the end, but you know it's all sooooo worth it with Nicole sleeping in the next room. Praying for all those in need right now. Don't give up on your dreams. Parenthood, next to marriage is the best thing I've ever had the blessing of experiencing.

    Claudia

  15. Oh how I pray these little guys find their forever family very soon. Their family are in my prayers.

    Me too, me too. Every time I read a nursery note, I think if only we were ready again. In three years, I hope to be able to make that call to Angela. Praying for these precious ones and their birthfamilies. I pray Abrazo finds the family that each one deserves.

    Love,

    Claudia

  16. Those "with kids" who may still be granted priority processing are those open to any race and prior Abrazo adopters who have demonstrated consistent loyalty to the agency and its program through regular attendance at Camp Abrazo, philanthropic involvement, frequent Forum participation, and ongoing dedication to their children's birthfamilies.

    So I truly hope that all those Abrazo againer families will consider the above. We are proof positive that the blessing will be reciprocated! Look at our darling daughter Nicole!!! Hopefully, when we are ready to parent a third child, it will all work out too!

    Keep the faith,

    Claudia

  17. Congrats to all those who have blessed with children through adoption and the Abrazo experience.

    May God smile favorably upon you all and may all of us PIW's wait patiently while he prepares our special familes as well :)

    -A

    Amen Adam. Praying for all PIW's. The baby meant for each and every one will find their way to you as you will find your way to them.

    Claudia

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