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Nathan & Beth

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  1. Congrats, and I gotta say love the name, I love the spelling too, we do nto see it that way often
  2. Praise for the safe delivery of our nephew this morning. Micah was 7 lbs. 15 oz, mom and baby doing great! Beth
  3. Lighting candles for both boys birthfamilies, adn for Garen's birthdad, who we a missing this month as Garen turns 3.
  4. Congratulations to all the new families, it seems the stork has been busy lately.
  5. WONDERFUL NEWS CONGRATS TO ALL THE NEW FAMILES
  6. No moreso, apparently, than when they advertise on Google with a heading that reads OPEN ADOPTION to entice women seeking such services, and then state clearly on the birthparent page of their website, under "Readers Q&A" that they don't really "do" open adoption (only semi-closed, which is limited to letters and photos sent through their agency. Grrr!) ?!?!?! I guess you could say we have a Big G baby, though we never worked with that agency that is in our back yard. But our birthmom lived there, chose an adoptive family through there, but after his birth she chose not to place, for fear she would never hear or see her birth son again. She tells me bits here and there about life there, and the contact arrangements. She reports being told that birth mothers could only send presents for the 1st birthday, and then Christmas yearly, all meetings were to be arranged through the agency. and just recently one of George's therapist who adopted through there last year called me about other agency options, as they felt they were missing something because of lack of contact. I guess all my talks about our open adoptions paid off. Loriahn, I have to say we looked there, because they are in our backyard, but after looking and hearing about open adoption, and learning that they do semi-closed, we could not honestly go through them, we wanted free contact, and openness for our children. I would say mostly it is lack of education on the AP part, because that agency is not less expensive than any open adoption agency, IMO. I am thankful for agency like Abrazo, that take care of the birth families, and th eadoptive families they creat through truely open adoptions.
  7. We too switched to Abrazo for our second domestic adoption. we loved our 1st agency, we wanted our children closer than there regs would allow, due to the age of our first child at placement, we used them for the local support and social workers, but Abrazo was where we were meant to be for number 2. I feel we had a good idea of open adoption going in, but we loved orientation weekend with Abrazo. There were things at orentation that we had not heard before and that we learned more on, of course I do not think you can ever stop learning about open adoption. I think Abrazo and the other agency both had staff that saw their work as their calling and not a job, and that is what we wanted. These ladies love what they do. And like Adam said we have formed some awesome friendships from our orintation group, 3 years later we still talk and hopefully that will continue for a lifetime. We have a good relationship with our birthmother. And I think one thing that has been a God send, was that they are still here for us, when we have issues. We unfortunaley lost our son's birthfather in late 2006, Abrazo was there to offer us support, and guidance with this, the forum family was there to pray for us and Garen birthfamily as we all dealt with his birthfathers untimely death. Elizabeth and her staff went out of their way to try to help us find out what had happened. These ladies truely become an extention of your family, adn they absolutley love what they do, and have fun doing it. Good luck in your future adoption journey
  8. any news on this boy? he has been in my prayers alot this week.
  9. Is that even a realistic expectation, I mean really no caffine, I always thought I would not drink caffine, but when it came down to it, I was not able to give it up, but I did cut back. I know both the boys birthmoms had caffine during their pregnancies, though one more than the other. Well I agree is this couple even a good fit for Abrazo? I was recently talking with my first adoption social worker, and we were discussing openess not only in terms of contact but in accepting of cases based on medical info and the like. And how the pickier you are the longer your wait can be. You have to have faith, and be open to things, though I agree you also have to know your limits, but come on caffine? Hey all the books now say that I think 2 cups of coffee a day are okay during pregnancy, but they do still suggest limiting your caffine intake. Out of curiosty they are only worried about caffinated beverages, do they realize that there is caffine in other things? Hey I am with you guys on the popsicles, I would problaby opend the box and given one to my child in the store. We do not do alot of popsicles, but we do keep them for when the boys gets sick, and we tend to use the sugar free kind. But we do not use alot of artifical sweetners around here either. Nathan uses them in his tea when we are out, but I do not keep them at home, though I know many things we eat probably have them in them, I just do not add them to things. Well to each his own, best of luck to this couple, i hope they find what they are looking for or come to the realization they are being unrealistic.
  10. Paula, Scott & Mckenna, I too was sorry to hear of your loss, but I know that meeting his family and hearing stories is a blessing. Having lost our son's birthfather over the Christmas Holidays, I understand how you feel. Hearing of McKenna's loss reminded me of that time for us, not to mention we had just spent some time with people who knew garen's birthfather, and heard more stories about him. I am glad you were able to make the visitation, I regret we did not make Garen's birthfather's memorial service, but the weather did not cooperate with me that day. The Terry's
  11. Laural, I am with Adam, if you feel comfortable mentioning something to one of the pastors at you rchurch do it. I know the Methodist church we go to in Ft Worth, alot of times is looking for what the congregation needs adn how they can meet that, you might not be the only one who would like something more. Have you joined a UMW(united Methodist Womens group) our church has several circles that meet at different times and days monthly, the circle I am in is mostly younger moms, though some have elementary age kids, but it is nice we meet twice a month during the school year at a local spot, have a light brunch and talk over either a topic and bible verses or whatever lesson we had for that meeting. It is just a good fellowship time. I always htought UMW was for the older women of the church, never realizing that there was a group for me, we also do service projects throughout the year, and these women are now probably my closest friends at the church. During the summer, we meet weekly and do a Beth Moore study, which is nice. I am also with Adam, that you might want to look around the Atlanta area for a more diverse church if that is what you feel is right. I guess we just lucked out with the pastorial staff at our church, we have 2 women, one hispanic, and our lead pastor is adopted. We also have a hispanic service that meets weekly at our church, giving our church some diversity, given that they incorporate teh spanish service with the church on a regular basis. Good luck, and I hope you find what you want/need, feeling at home and comfortable in your place of worship is I think the most important thing. We often are asked why we drive the distance to our church, especially since we pass probably 4 or 5 Methodist churches on our way, or that are alot closer, but it is simple, this is where we feel at home, this is where we are comfortable, and our spiritual needs are being met. beth
  12. Congrats to Dan & Erica and big brother Danny, we are so happy for you. Camp was truely amazing this year. hope to hear more from you soon The Terry's
  13. Jenny I share your same fear, we have 2 boys both through adoption but I wonder about number 3 and possibly 4, but there are days that I think 2 is good, and if 3 or 4 never come than that was meant to be. I am still unsure about when or if we will adopt again, though I strongly feel that we one day will. I still have the fear of how birthparents will view us in the future becuase we do already have 2 children, but then I remember that there is a perfect birthparent/child for everyone, and you just have to wait for that birthparent/child to find their way into your hearts and home.
  14. Marjory & Bob We are so happy for you, can not wait to hear all about your new little one. congratulations the terrys
  15. One of the comments that drove me crazy, was "you are still young you have plenty of time." Now this might be true but after 5 years of marriage and still no kids, even though I was still in my mid twenties, that was a little hard to hear. I also had someone tell me that God must not want me to have children. I used to post on an infertility board, and several us us mentioned we prayed for children, and even prayed for God to take the desire out of our hearts if we were not meant to be moms, either by adoption or biology. And some other woman came on and posted that comment. My theory was as long as the desire was there, then God still meant for Nathan and I to have children in our home.
  16. Mike's family and friends are in our prayers, this is such a tragedy. I remember him at orientation, it was so moving and special to hear the birth fathers point of view.
  17. Congratulations on the new addition to your family!
  18. Melinda & Albert, I was so happy to see the announcement and your post, have fun and be careful driving home, take your time. Looking forward to meeting you, and baby Isabel, what a beautiful name. The Terry's
  19. Hello everyone We recently adopted our second child, our boys are 19 months apart. We took our oldest son with us, when we met the birthfamily and our second son was born we were gone for 8 days(we live in TX), my mother went along with us to watch our older son, because we could not leave him at hoem with any one, we had never left him overnight and did not feel that doing so the first time and then bringing home a baby brother would go over very well. We are still discussing adoptin again as well, we have some time, since our youngest is only 4 months, but we would like to have at least another child if not two in our family. The gender question is a topic of discussion, my husband would like all boys, and I would like a daughter, though whateer child God feels needs to be in our live we will glad accept. I can tell you that our two adoption experience have been very different, and we have different relationship with both of our sons birth families, and I do not think either one is better, they are just different. hope this helps some of you beth
  20. Congratulations Walker Family!!! We can not wait to see pictures, enjoy your stay in TX, and post when you can. The Terry's
  21. Sherrie, I am so excited for you, I have been gone for a week and just checked teh board. Send pictures when you can. Congratulations to your family!! The Terry's
  22. Yeah! Liz & Kevin we are so excited for you guys, adn we can not wait to see you, call if you need anything, and enjoy your little girl. talk to you soon The Terry's
  23. Dan & Michelle, Congrats, I bet you guys are thrilled, adn it will be so nice to have MIke & Stacey's little girl close in age. I know I have enjoyed having my best friends 2 youngest children being with 3 months of both our boys, we get to do so much more together because of it. Enjoy your time in TX, send pictures and details when you can. The Terrys
  24. Angie, We baptized our first son George between placement and finalization, though it was the weekend before he turned one. George was placed with us at 8.5 months, I did not want to immediatley have him baptized because I was not sure how his birthmother would take that, and we wanted her there for it. We were going to have him baptized on his 1st birthday, but my cousin who was to perform the ceremony was not avaiable, so we did it the weekend before so that he could be there, and all of our family was in town as well. We had his 1st birthday party on saturday adn baptism on sunday, it was a full weekend. I will not do that again. I am thinking of having Garen baptized this summer, his birthmother is planning on coming to visit and I would like her to be here for it. All of our family would like to be here as well, so I have no clue what will happen. I will think about that next month. Hope this helps. Beth
  25. Congratulations Robert & Anne!! Can not wait to hear the details. Hope all is well, and you are enjoying our lovely North Texas weather.
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