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  1. I wanted to post on something that has been on my mind for a long time. Is adoption truly a second choice? I have to agree that when most of us think of growing our family it does not include adoption. It includes having a child. Many of us think of being pregnant, trying to get pregnant (practice, practice, practice), delivery, bringing our little one home, and loving and raising him or her or them. When I hear of friends trying to start a family I hear so many different stories. How many times do you hear that they are pregnant right off the bat? Some of our friends were told by their doctor it would take some time to get pregnant once off the pill so they decided to get off and hopefully they would get pregnant in 6 months. They were pregnant immediately. Was that their second choice? They did not want to be pregnant then, well not prepared would be a better choice of words. The plan was in 6 months. Others wanted to get pregnant and it took so long. How many disappointments did they have? Was it 6 months or a year? Did that make their child their 6th choice or their 12th choice? Others knew exactally when they were to ovulate, had one encounter, and WHAM! Are they the only ones that truly have a first choice child? I could go on and on with examples. For our family having a child to love and raise was what our ONLY choice was. Yes we had to take many steps, twists, and turns to get there, but they were not second best. Our choice was to have a child and our journey got us there! I am sure many of you feel differently. I know many books say differently. This is just how our family feels. Lisa
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    YEAH DADDY BOB AND MOMMY DIANE! WHAT A BEAUTIFUL BABY GIRL WITH A BEAUTIFUL NAME CREATING THE PERFECT BEAUTIFUL FAMILY!!!!! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    CONGRATULATIONS Heather and Shawn!!!!!!! I was thinking and praying for you all last night. Yeah for little boys!!! Congratulations also for the newest Rats Baby BOY!!!!!! Thoughts and prayers for everyone in all of the newly joined families. Lisa V
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    LIGHT A CANDLE

    Heidi...You are just so great! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Beautiful picture of a beautiful family! I LOVE the name!!! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Congratulations to the new family!!!!! Enjoy every moment Mommy and Daddy!!!!! Many thoughts and prayers for the birthfamily during this time. Lisa V
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    LIGHT A CANDLE

    As a PIW I have to say this is very cool and incredibly touching. Thanks everyone for keeping us all in your thoughts and prayers. Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Congratulations Mommy and Daddy to Little Miss Victoria!!!! Beautiful family!!!! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Oh my goodness! Happy incredible times for the new families! Congratulations Venturas on becoming a family of 4! Your children are just beautiful! Congratulations Kristin and Rich! Baby Alexander is just amazing! What a ride! I love the number 3!!!! Many thoughts and prayers for easy transitions and peace for the birthparents. Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Huge smile and chills on my arms!!! YEAH! Congratulations on your bundle of blue and your family!!!! Enjoy every moment!!! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Congratulations to the new beautiful family!!!!! Baby Tyler is just so handsome! Enjoy every moment!!!! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Oh my goodness!!! Happy tears!!! Congratulations to this incredible family!!!! Yeah Lisa, Lance, Kayleigh, Brennan, Meg, and so many others. I am so happy for you and my heart goes out to you all as well. Oh how this little boy has so many that love him! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Yeah Joe and Kim!!!!! Congratulations on your bundle of PINK...... MOMMY and DADDY!!!!! Many thought and prayers for this birthfamily during this time. Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Congratulations to all of the new families!!!!! Yeah H3s!!!!! A BOY!!!! Yeah Burns Family!!!! TWO makes SIX!!!!!!! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Oh HAPPY HAPPY times for the new family! Congratulations on the baby GIRL!!!!! Yeah Mommy and Daddy and BIG brother DANTE!! Enjoy every incredible moment! Lisa V
  16. That just makes me so mad and sad at the same time. I know others have discussed this on the forum in other spots. It is just terrible that a woman makes the difficult decision to place her child and then is swayed to not do so by someone that says they will help and they DON'T. Then to add to it he not only does not help he kills the child and says he was drunk! I know things like this happen all the time, but not necessarily ending in death. We know of a situation where the father actually abuses the child and CPS has been involved MANY times and still nothing is done. The child is just a way for the father to control things. The number one person who looses out is the child, the one that it should be all about. It is so sad that everyone has failed these children in situations like this. I know there are so many factors that could be involved in any situation. Abuse, drugs, fear from so many things, not knowing options, not knowing things could be better, seeing the system fail others or themselves, and so much more that I have no idea about. I can only imagine the decision. I can see how a mother would grab onto any string of hope that would allow her to parent. How sad for her and any mother or parent that must deal with the emotions of loosing a child in this manner. How sad for any parent to have to deal with the emotions of not having a child lost in this manner, but actually see him or her grow up with abuse. Every child needs to feel loved, safe, and secure. It is so sad to think that so many children do not have this. Some times I will start to think of how widespread it is and then I have to just back away from those thoughts. It just rips you apart. lisa v
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    Homestudy Updates

    We did an update when we began our second journey and found out we should have waited. We sent in a copy of our original homestudy and that was enough (along with reprints/ physicals/ newly filled out Abrazo forms/ and reference letters) to start the process again. We will need to do an update when we are matched and nearing the due date. If we get a BOG we will scream, call our social worker and beg to get her here in an hour, scream more, and hope all gets completed in a reasonable timeframe. As I understand it with the new rules Andrew (who is 3) will need to be interviewed! Now THAT should be FUNNY!!!! Good luck with everything!!!! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Congratulations to the new and beautiful family!!!! You all look so happy!!! Enjoy every moment with your little girl MOMMY and DADDY!!!!! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Congratulations to the new family MOM and DAD!!!! May your family enjoy every moment!!!! Yeah a GIRL!!!! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Congratulations on the newest addition to your incredible family! What a beautiful son! Enjoy every moment! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    CONGRATULATIONS MOMMY AND DADDY!!!!!! A BABY BOY!!!!!! How absolutely incredible and amazing! May your lives be forever entwined! Enjoy every moment! Prayers go out to everyone in this amazing family that has been touched by adoption in so many ways. Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    What a beautiful FAMILY!!!!! Congratulations on your new baby BOY MOMMY and DADDY !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Truly many thoughts and prayers go out to this incredible birthmother. Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    YEAH!!! Congratulations on Baby Jack!!!!! Boys are so much fun!!! What a blessing to have such an incredible birthmother. What an incredible family! Yeah Fishies!!!! Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    Congratulations to the new family! Boys are so much fun!!!!! Enjoy every moment! Many thoughts and prayers go to your son's birthfamily during this time. Lisa V
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    Baby Announcements 2007

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Oh my gosh! God sure does work in amazing ways! Welcome little man Nicholas! Wishing you all of the happiness, love, strength, and joy during this incredible and very emotional time! Lisa V
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