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Alethea

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  1. Alethea, we remember you with love and hope you are at peace! You are never forgotten and your two beautiful daughters are living proof.

  2. First I'd like to say "welcome!" I placed my daughter in 1995. I can't exactly tell you for sure what lies ahead on your journey, each person's experience is different, all I can do is share my experience. Meeting Terry and Joann (Tori's AP'S) was an amazing experience, and continues to be to this day. It was very scary at first, all kinds of crazy thoughts went through my head (mostly like they must think poorly of me for ending up in that situation, but that was SOOO far from reality! but meeting them really solidified my decision. It put me at ease to get to know them, and to this day we have a wonderful relationship that is always there no matter how hectic our lives may become. I know this is not always the case in adoptions, and we are all very fortunate to have connected like we did. Don't forget, they are going to be just as nervous as you are too! My bigest advice is to really enjoy the experience and ask lots of questions and really get to know eachother, it's a wonderful time on your journey together! Abrazo and their staff were (and are! so amazingly supportive. I only have one regret with regards to the whole adoption experience... that I didn't take advantage of their offer to help me emotionally. I thought I needed to be tough and strong, when I should have been honest with my own emotions and realized that the enormous range of things I was feeling was not only ok, but perfectly normal! I don't know if I answered your questions, but just know you are in good hands! Sorry I rambled on so much here! Hope this helps!
  3. Amanda.. you definatly have spent too much time around Timo The top 3 things I looked for in chosing an adoptive family was the 3 things that balanced out my reasons for placing in the first place. 1. They had to be in love and have a stable relationship. 2. They had to be able to provide for my child all the things I was not able to at that time, and have similar 'plans' in relation to what my own "parenting dream world wish list" you know, like quality schools, dance lessons, religion experiences, etc. 3. They just had to "feel" right. I asked myself if i would've wanted them to be my parents if i was given the option to chose. I put myself in my child's 'shoes'
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