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TeyandTy's Mom

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  1. WOW! How beautiful! It immediately makes me think of my late husband Danny. If I spend my "dash" touching as many people as he did....Then I will have done the gift of my "dash" justice. Thanks for sharing Elizabeth!
  2. Congrats to the new family!! Let the big brother duties begin! Sabrina
  3. Jennifer That is wonderful!!!! God is Good! Sabrina
  4. Congrats to the new family! They are beautiful girls!
  5. Yeah Melissa! I have a praise to mention....As I was cooking dinner last night I received a call from Teyler s teacher. I have known her for a while. She and I worked together when I got the call about Teyler when he was born. She said "Sabrina I am completely in love with your son. She said is is a sweetheart." "I'd like to share a story with you....We were talking about how the children got their names. Teyler said "My mommy got on a plane to Texas and went to meet my birthmother...My birthmother named me Teyler and my mommy liked that name. So they called me Teyler...My daddy looked down from heaven and said I want your name to be Daniel like me." So they call me Teyler Daniel. She said he spoke so WELL and PROUDLY about his being adopted. She loved that he was so open and proud. I just cried because I was so proud of him! Sign me One Proud Momma!
  6. This is some topic. Prior to my husband dying he and I pursed adoption strongly. However, we were turned down by every agency we spoke with . He was ill and they would not approve us. At the time I was soooo unbelievably mad. Looking back I can see why. I just thought would would have been wonderful parents together. That was not to be. I chose to continue my quest to adopt two years after his death. I was turned down by several agencies at the initial phone call. I would call and they would say we don't think we can help you at this time. I was just about to give up when a friend told me about Abrazo. They welcomed me and my single self with open arms. ........and now they can't get rid of me. Sabrina
  7. I was just thinking...I went out to lunch the other day with some friends from work. I had a great time. They can make me laugh even on my worst day. It got me to thinking of how lucky I am to work with wonderful people who I actually like working around. I love my job....even when it gets stressfull. Then I started thinking about a very special friend who I can tell anything to. She is always there. She too can make me smile and laugh even on my worst day. I think how fortunate I am to be blessed with such a friend. Thanks you! My life is so rich...with great people! Sabrina
  8. I was just thinking that this would be a good time to put a topic up that we can all share our praises. You know things that brighten your day, make you smile, lift you up, and, inspire you to be be more. I was just lying in bed this morning when I heard my guys running and playing like wild men. They were soooooo happy! I heard playing power rangers and racing cars. Even in the midst of all their "rough n' tough" boy games I heard Teyler tell Tyson...." I love you Ty-Ty...you are my best brother".....Tyson says "Yeah I wuv you to Teya". This made me smile sooo big as I thought of how blessed I am to have two boys that "fit" as a family with me like an amazing puzzle designed by God! Just thought I would share this special moment ..now go ahead send up a Praise! Sabrina
  9. Congratulations to the new family!!!! Sabrina
  10. I agree! I don't think that those on this forum demean other forms of adoption at all. I think it is like we have all had experiences through this form(open). I have found it best to not talk about things I don't know about fully. I feel as though I understand and love open adoption...thererfore , I sing it's praises. My late husband only understood his own closed adoption and he was not particularly happy with the "not knowing" of it all. My own birthbrother was placed for adoption by my mother who chose a closed adoption....he too had a bad experience. So for me I tend to promote open adoption because in my situation with my children it has been wonderful. Of the four personal adoption stories I have been faced with it is the open adoption that has been the best experience. I too like Karen would love to hear your story of a different form of adoption. Sabrina
  11. I remember after I adopted Teyler several people said to me "don't you just hate that you can't have your own?" WHAT ???? I would just smile and reply..."He is my own.....Heaven sent!!!" I also got several times are you gonna try to have your own later??? Yeah just call me Mary...I am gonna have an Immaculate conception(sp?)" HELLO I am single ...not married! These things were always said by people..I THOUGHT were intelligent! Sabrina
  12. I am going to be 34 next week. I adopted my first son at 27 and my 2nd son at 29. My good friend also adopted through Abrazo and they were both in their mid 40's. Sabrina
  13. YIIIPEEEEE! Congratulations Tony and Linda! Sabrina
  14. I could'nt agree with you all more. Donna, You made a good point...respecting the boundaries until either party is ready is great. I hope my post hasn't gotten confused. I totally and completly respect my sons birthparents. I never want to "invade" their life or bring stress. I just want them to know our sons. I checked with Abrazo on several occassions to help me proceed in contacting them. Because I did not want to upset them. I wanted to repect their boundaries. I know that time changes things. I just want to always make sure I live up to my word and that is to be open. Both of my sons birthparents are wonderful people...who have been dealt a tough hand. I hope that they are able to know that we love them and want them to be in our lives.....when they are ready. Sabrina
  15. Karen, You are so right! Absolutely! I definately think that having an open heart is where it all starts. I was just saying that I am "confused" as to why birthparents or adoptive parents who go through an agency known for their openess...would choose not to be so open. I ABSOLUTELY imagined the day when my boys would be able to hold their birthparents hands and reunite. I just have'nt alowed myself to think that it would'nt happen. I was'nt prepared for the time it would take...and it still taking. I am willing to wait and when the time comes...I'm ready! I guess I compare it to my remarrying somday.."If you are going to marry me...you have to marry my boys...or no marriage"...The same thing goes for when I adopted my guys....I embraced the birthfamilies immediate and exteneded! I don't see how it would work any other way! Sabrina
  16. Elizabeth, I could'nt agree more. I think when you come to adopt through Abrazo you have to have some understanding of what open adoption is. I can't imagine turning away from either of my sons birthparents. Were it not for them I would not be a mother. I do however, have a little different twist on this. I went into adoption with the hopes of building a relationship with the birthparents of my boys. I have tried to stay connected ...but, it is not always easy. We do live a great distance apart. I would like to stay in touch and build an open relationship. It seems that the birthparents of my boys who went with an open adoption agency...are not very open. I am not saying that they are wrong or bad in any way. I am just confused as to why they are choosing to not stay open. My location has not changed since placement...so, hopefully they will contact us when they are ready. I did meet with Tysons BP before camp..which is wonderful! I am anxiously waiting for more. Sabrina
  17. Amanda, Welcome to the Forum! I am glad you decided to post! This is a great place to be! Sabrina
  18. Welcome to the forum! Good lluck on your new journey! Sabrina
  19. Congratulations to the new family! Sabrina
  20. Great quotes! I thought both my boys and my mother would go crazy while we were in Texas this past week. They wanted to call her everyday! Sabrina
  21. Congratulations to the new family! Sabrina
  22. Thanks for sharing Elaine! What an awesome story! Sabrina
  23. CONGRATULATIONS to the new family! Sabrina
  24. Congratulations Walker family! She is beautiful! ....and baby makes four! Sabrina
  25. I guess my fear of adopting again strictly came from my being single. Was this supposed to be in the plan? Can I do this as a single mother? I was'nt sure. I was afraid that I was "biting off more than I could chew".I continued to pray daily before I decided to send in the paperwork. I have to admit that not everyone was supportive of my decision to adopt a second time. I was sure that I wanted Teyler to have a sibling. I grew up with 5 siblings. I knew that I wanted more children but, I just had to be sure that the time was right. I went to Camp Abrazo and told the ladies that I was ready for baby number two. I told my family about a month before Camp that I was going to adopt again. The ones that truly mattered to me were supportive ...and that is all I needed. When I sent the paperwork to Abrazo my prayer was "if this is your will Lord then things will work out. I told the ladies in July 2001 and my beautiful son Tyson came into the world September 23, 2001. I know now that I was supposed to be a mother to these TWO boys according to God's will. I would love to have more open relationships with both birthparents of my guys. However, I have to take things as they come......baby steps. Sabrina
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