Reading back through this thread, I realize I was at the same conference in Wisconsin as you Deb (at St. Norbert's in Green Bay!) where they talked about keeping the birth family's information private as it is the child's story to tell. I have read that and understand where this is coming from because I have too, as others have mentioned in this thread, seen a slippery slope of questions from family and friends arise when asking about the birth family. Mark and I have thankfully not had family opposition, but my question is in the age of Facebook, how do we grapple with this privacy issue? We are friends with our daughter's birth mom on Facebook (and birth father, and extended family). I am very thankful for our open relationship. I also realize that because our birth mom has no privacy settings and posts at least 5 times each day, I don't know how anything will ever be private. My friends and family can go onto her page and learn anything they ever wanted to know about her. And some have and come back to talk to me about what they have read or learned.