Miller & Delaney's Mom

Bumping up for Angelita

Bumping this up for Angelita

Last week Doug's mom was told she had thyroid cancer. Her surgery was yesterday to remove her thyroid but when the surgery happened thay found that it was not cancer just rapidly growing cells (which could lead to cancer but they found it early). To say the least she is over the moon and doing cartwheels in her head.

Congrats David & Ellouise!! Your girls are so precious! You are such stinkers to keep it from us!!

Christian, The worst comment I got after my miscarraige was from my mother in law. She told me, at my wedding shower, "This is just God's way of fixing his mistakes"

Last night I was talking with a friend on the phone and she was talking about her relationship between her daughter and her daughter's father. She said "I am more connected and know my daughter better that he does because I carried her for 9 months" then she relized what she said and then told me "but you are a good mom too even if you didn't carry your children". Which I was like ok. But then she proceeded to say how much she knows her child and how much more she is loved because she carried her. I know the comments were meant toward me but her daughter's father but still it hurt!

Look like it is someone from the Peabiscuits, Stock Central must have changed it? Or the few of us who saw t fisrt just couldn't read

Congrats on all the new babies! Laurie, I am with you I can't remember who posted about this a few weeks ago but I do remembder someone did.

Welcome Alyssa, I am happy you got out of Galveston! We are in Katy and staying the storm out. I will keep us all in my prayers, this storm is very scary. As for you queston about your mom. I think one thing that would help is if she meet the parents you choose for your baby. I have contact with my daughter's birthgrandparents and I love the stories they share with me. Plus my children just have more grandparents than other children. If your mom could see your child with the parents you chose and have continuing contact that might make her more supportive. I know in the begining with our daughter's case the birthfathers mom didn't want birtjhmother to place but after she met us her attitude changed. I hope this helps some! Be Safe Jennifer

My parents and sister are VERy supportive of all we have been through. But Doug's family is a whole other matter. We have heard many times that our children are not real family so Doug's sister's children will get everything worthh family value. At Delaney's birthday party a month ago Doug's grandma came and walked in and asked which one is Delaney? And the worst part is she lives 15 minutes away and only sees the kids for speacial occasions (like birthdays and Christmas). I have learned to deal with them by ignoring them all the time. I let Doug talk and deal with them. I only said one thing to Doug grandma and nothing to his mom at Delaney's party, it seems so strange to me that his family is like this but what can I do. His mom goes on to tell me all the time how bad of a mom I am and how we shouldn't put up with the birthparents (good thing she doesn't have a say). My family is so opposite, when a case came up this past fall I called my mom and asked her how much cash she could let us borrow and without hesitation she said as much as we need! If the same thing happened with Doug's mom we would be lectured on how we have enough kids and we should just be happy and no to any money. My parents welcome Amanda and Stacy into their lives the same as we do, they understand the importance of openness. Any advise on how to deal with Doug's family??

Angie, We dedicated (baptized) Miller when he was 4 months old and we finalized when he was 9 months. With Delaney we had her finalization on friday and her dedication on sunday of the same weekend, she was 6 months old. I think it is a personal choice and it depends on the case. If you have a legal risk you might want to wait until it is no longer legal risk. With Delaney it was in no way a legal risk but our church only does dedications certian times and that weekend just happened to be our finalization weekend. Her birthmom came for her dedication it was very nice. I will look around but there is somewhere on the forum about this... > The Abrazo Forum > Homestead > Abrazo's Chapel Potluck> Spiritual Enrichment Hope this helped

Elizabeth, You know we are always ready to add some more blue to our family. Just in case you need us After having a boy and a girl, I think a boys are easier. Miller is louder and more rough but he loves mommy so much Delaney is such a little diva. She threw a fit recently because Doug was putting on her shirt and she didn't want to wear it (at 2). She gives the dirtist looks you can imagine and to top it off she is hard headed. The pluses with girls; they love their daddy so much, you get to buy all those cute clothes (that puts a hole in your wallet) and they are so caring. Now I know every child is different but in our two Miller is easier (could be he is older). In our family we only need one princess and more princes to look after her. Something cute Delaney is doping now, she is asking for a baby Lincoln (thats the name we have picked if we have another boy). Maybe she knows its time?

That is Great news!! God is Awesome!

Congrats Paul, Michelle and Chloe!! We are so happy for ya'll! Share more info on your newest member please. I would love a new family photo!

Just wanted to chime in on this topic. When we were filling out the applications we had the same thoughts as most of you. I think we put that minor handicaps or correctible we would be willing to accept. When we got our call about Miller we were told that he had 2 extra didgets, one on each pinky. I could have cared less, our son was there waiting for us. We went the next morning to pick him up and we saw his little extras and we thought ok... That same day we went to lunch with his BP and she asked us many times if it was ok that his fingers were like that. I think she thought we wouldn't love him if he wasn't perfect (which he is so perfect). We reassured her that we had no problems with his fingers. On our first doctor visit, the doctor tied string (stiches) around them. She then told us that they would turn purple and fall off and two weeks later they did just that. (sidenote: they did not have bone in them, more like a large ball filled with blood) I forget about it all the time but then I will hold hid hand and feel his scar. I love him just the way he is! Just thought I would share our little exprience (don't even know if it would be considered a correctible condition) but I think back and am happy I checked the ok box or maybe Miller wouldn't be with us today. This may not help but it just might

Congratulations!! I can't wait to find out which couple you are!

Today's show is titled "adoption updates". Maybe they will be updating families from a few weeks ago. I will be watching!

Hi Elaine, I actually took some of the papers from our orientaion book and copied them and made folders for my parents, my sister, hubby's mom, hubby's sister andhis grandmother. I put all different subject matter in there and asked them to read it sooner than later. I think most of them did read it and had less concerns. My nieces were 3 years and 3 months when Miller came home. The older one loved the new baby boy. We explained to her (since her mommy just had a baby 3 months before) that Aunt Jenny's tummy was broken so Miller grew in his birthmom's tummy but in Jenny's heart. It was cute when she explained it back to me. When Delaney came home they were all a year older. The only one to this day to have issues between each other are Delaney and my younger neice. We aren't sure what is going on but my neice gives Delaney such a hard time and gets very upset with her a lot. I have a book for my children that is called "why was I adopted" by Carole Livingston. I like the book. Maybe it can help explain to your nephews?

Congratulations to all the new mommies and daddies! For the most recent ones stork central is right off on roller coaster ride onto another! Give us a call when you settle in and we'll be right over to meet her! Congratulations again!!

I am very close to Delaney's birthfather and his mom "T". I probably talk to T every other week or more and our calls last usually more than an hour. It has been great to build this relationship over the last year. We have such a strong bond. I can't wait to see her again, hopefully soon! She is always there for me and vise versa, we talk about anything and everything. I am just so lucky to have her in our lives! One of my favorite things she does is always end every call with "give both those babies a kiss from me". I love hearing that from her. Just wished we lived closer so we had another babysitting grandma

FeelingBlessed I agree with your reply! I don't think there is just one way to answer. In our family we have an older boy and younger girl and if we have a third I would really like to have another boy. Why? Because that is just how I see our family, I like the idea of having the middle child a diffrent gender than the other two. Don't get me wrong though if I were to have another girl I would be just as happy! Doug and I have always wanted children and if want a girl he wants a boy so we have always been happy! He wanted a boy firts and I a girl, when Miller came home first I wouldn't have changes a thing!! Then Delaney when Doug wanted another boy and me a girl so bad! Who knows maybe our next will be twins, a boy and a girl

Welcome babyangel!!! You must mean so much to Jessica and she must be a very special person to you! You two are lucky to have each other! You found the right place to get answers if that is what you are looking for, Abrazo is awesome! Everyone on the forum is supportive and truthful, so take advntage and pick our brains Welcome again and happy posting Jennifer

Jacquee- Miller and Delaney are 14 months apart andd I wouldn't change a thing. As I am typing this they are laying on a pillow together watching Elmo. They are so close and I just love watching them interact. As for the expense of diapers and formula it is so worth it, it seems to just work out. I have to say though I don't like changing so many diapers a day but I just remind myself that they won't go to college in diapers...it will one day stop (unless we have a third). I hope that when Miller and Delaney go to college they can be at the same school and have an awesome bond, I know that is a lot to ask but they are so close now that I can not wait to see them together in the future. Miller wakes up in the morning asking for Delaney and looking for her. Oh I love it so much