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txladybug85

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About txladybug85

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    San Antonio,TX
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    Riley,writing,reading,traveling,coffee,animals

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  1. txladybug85

    Baby Announcements 2012

    YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Grace and Nate I LOVE you guys and im so excited for yall precious baby Ariel cant wait to meet you!!! And CONGRATS GRANDMA SUNNYD
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    Texas Reunion?

    Monica i posted some links...ummm somewhere LOL.....ill have to find them!! i know i posted or im losing my mind hahaha
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    A Birth Grandmother's Role

    How sweet Mari! Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family! God Bless!
  4. txladybug85

    Baby Announcements 2012

    Hooorah!! welcome Xavier!!! congrats to everyone )
  5. txladybug85

    Texas Reunion?

    soooo im wondering if anyone has had a chance to look at the link to the parks i posted? I really think that the Palmetto park in Gonzalez is the best option since we are kinda half SA and half Houston and its half between lol im aiming for the last weekend in Feb...any feedback i have learned from the tennessee bunch that planning to a degree kind of early is the best bet so im trying LOL i really want this to become a regular thing like they have i think thats awesome for the kiddos and the families both AP and BP. So any assistance and feedback is greatly welcomed
  6. txladybug85

    Baby Announcements 2012

    Welcome baby Irie!!! May you have a blessed life knowing how very very loved and cherished you are by oh so many!! Can't wait to meet you one day hopefully at camp
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    A Birth Grandmother's Role

    awwwwwwwwwww beautiful!!!!! Not that im surprised at all!!! And im sure being related to you that they are just as beautiful on the inside
  8. txladybug85

    A Birth Grandmother's Role

    Yay Mari sounds like the perfect Birthday weekend!! So glad to hear it you deserve it cant wait for the pics!!
  9. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! :) may it be an amazing one :)

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    A Birth Grandmother's Role

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY Mari!!!!! I truely hope its a Grrrreat Day for uou you so deserve it! Youre such an amazing selfless,giving inspirational woman! I am so proud to say i know you!
  11. txladybug85

    Texas Reunion?

    well im excited for BOTH of them LOL!!!
  12. txladybug85

    Open Adoption

    Ok so i think i should clarify....I am fully okay with being called his birthmom and would she have asked who his mom was i definitely would have answered Erin because she IS his mom.....It was more the whole what is the relationship that got us all reaching for a response i think...i know my mind was "well these are his parents and they adopted him from me." or maybe "we are all part of an open adoption that surrounds Riley,the baby." I dont know really i guess its something i hadnt expected nor thought of before so i figured since i am trying to keep my experiences and emotions as help for others i would see if others had thought about this or been through it maybe. And in using me as a learning experience i will add that you should also learn to be braver than me in taking the issue to your "other half" (AP or BP) before seeking advice elsewhere and im sorry that i havent im scared to make them think that it hurt my feelings or they did something wrong they didnt.It was a great experience and a true gift. And i should have said something right then.
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    Open Adoption

    OK so im asking a question and im thinking this is the perfect spot---- Also giving future APs and BPs something to think about and discuss with your matches.... What do you say when you're in public and asked about the relationship between each other?I felt really bad for Erin yesterday at the photo shoot when the photographer asked what the relationship was between us so she knew what pictures and poses to do. I didnt want to answer and seem like i was taking over but i could tell it made Erin feel awkward and it made me feel bad for all of us. So what do you say to this question when it comes up to you? I ashamedly havent talked to Erin and Jeff about this i dont want to make them feel bad for something that has already made them feel bad.
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    What is Open Adoption?

    Great point!! I didnt even think about that..see this is why i love the forum i get to see things from all kinds of angles!! Thanks Beth! I love this response too and it actually made me wonder if ya'll think that being in an open adoption and growing up looking at this big family brought together by love for love if it helps create adults that can see society as a community and not strangeers?If they have a greater sense of helping others and giving back and paying forward? i can see that happening in me already and i read how alot of ya'll are that way too so do you think that being in open adoption helps that or being in Abrazo does it? Just a random thought thanks for inspiring it Beth I agree with the above responses. I think that open adoption can mean many different things depending on the situation but at the heart of it is honesty and love. I do think that you do start to look out from yourself and see that your child can benefit not only from your family, but also from their other family! One thing that going through the adoption process has done for me is given me a lot of gratitude. I think that sense of gratitude is what makes me want to try to help others and "pay it forward." I think when the birthfamilies and adoptive families have gratitude for each other and the part we play in each other's lives then there is greater respect and committment to the child's well being. One of my biggest hopes for my boys is that they grow up never feeling competition or jealousy between families. I want them to be free to love both sides and not feel like they are going to hurt one person they love be loving another. Love definitely expands, and not divides so there is no reason for them to feel like they have to limit theirs. I think BOTH birthfamilies and adoptive families have to work hard to talk well of and respect the other family so the child feels this way. Great response as always Hannah! Thanks for sharing!!
  15. txladybug85

    What is Open Adoption?

    I love this response too and it actually made me wonder if ya'll think that being in an open adoption and growing up looking at this big family brought together by love for love if it helps create adults that can see society as a community and not strangeers?If they have a greater sense of helping others and giving back and paying forward? i can see that happening in me already and i read how alot of ya'll are that way too so do you think that being in open adoption helps that or being in Abrazo does it? Just a random thought thanks for inspiring it Beth
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