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michcana

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  1. Hey! I was happy to see the note you left! Love the pictures too! I have the one of the three of you but we need some copies of the ones of the girls! :) Have a great day! Can't wait for you to get the pics this month! They should be there early next week!

  2. Hey! I was happy to see the note you left! Love the pictures too! I have the one of the three of you but we need some copies of the ones of the girls! :) Have a great day! Can't wait for you to get the pics this month! They should be there early next week!

  3. Thought I'd say hi to you on here since I'm never on here.. (: Love you!

  4. Kristal, Yes, I do regret my decision sometimes. I have learned about some things, but not sure if I'll act on them!! I will check out your thread!! (: Thanks!
  5. Yes, Karen, I agree that the Segura's are THE BEST!! Thank you for your comment about Nico.. he is an adorable little man! Monica, you know how blessed we feel to have you and your girls, and of course the cutest little man in our lives! Not a day goes by that we don't think of you and pray for you and are thankful for you. We are as committed as ever to make the best of a difficult situation... we are so aware of the pain you feel. We know that we weren't brought together by accident and we look forward to a future of watching these beautiful boys grow up together with you in our lives. We feel such excitement when we hear how Aria and Elida are excelling in school and sports and all the sweet things they say and do. They are great big sisters. When we think of how you all embrace not only Nico but Luke also it really touches our heart. Love you guys bunches!
  6. My experience.. When I spoke to the AP's I picked it just "felt right" on a personal level! I didn't know what to expect when I called. I was sure they were going to be just as nervous as I was. They were the 2nd PIW I spoke to and on our subsequent conversations I felt connected to her as a friend. I thought that if I met her outside this situation that we could be friends. The 2nd thing that made me feel wonderful is that they felt the need to connect to their current child's BP's. Even though those BP's had chose not to continue an open relationship w/ them they continue to send pictures, letters, etc to the agency. That made me feel like they really wanted this to be an open adoption, do what's best for their son and that it wasn't just an "easy" way to obtain a child/family for themselves. The 1st couple I spoke to were very nice and had never adopted before. When I asked about how open they wanted their adoption to be they were unsure. They weren't certain as to when they would tell the child they were adopted and how they would tell him. That concerned me and I never called them back. When I finally met them and their son, there was no doubt that if I were to go through w/ the adoption, this family was sent to me and I was sent to them. Once they met my older children, they took them under their wings and embraced them. They made them feel included and assured them they would always be a part of their brothers life. Although it hasn't been very long since they have taken my son home, they have exceeded every expectation I could imagine. I hope this helps some BP's.
  7. Karen, You are right.. One day at a time! My reasons for getting on anti-depressants about 7-8 years ago were for anger related depression. All this crying and up and downs are a little new to me. I'm almost 33yrs old. I never thought I would ever be in this place in my life and it is a huge adjustment. I have always been the one people went to for advice and I always had a level head on my shoulders, but to be on the other side is definitely a change! I know it will get better, I know life will move forward, I know I have to think about my 15 and 10 yr old daughters, but I also can't stand to feel like a mental case by people!! Everyone saying it's your hormones, it's grief, etc.. I understand that and I acknowledge it. It's just not a good feeling to have all your feeling devalued by these labels. I can say "I have a headache" and you can respond "it's probably allergies", but it doesn't take away the fact that I have a headache and it hurts! Thank you for your ((HUG)) I'll take one of those any day! (: Monica
  8. Hmm.. I definitely don't agree with some of this. Your perspective as well as mine can be broken down and analyzed in different ways. Everyone has their own opinion and every "birth mothers" situation is separate and different. Though the laws state certain things doesn't mean they are right or shouldn't be clearer! I would absolutely say there should be a longer waiting period before any papers are signed. How long IDK! I am just stating facts of MY mental clarity during and after my pregnancy. I was on antidepressants for a very long time before my pregnancy, stopped them, when in my case, the benefits would have outweighed the risks. Shoulda, coulda, woulda... Hindsight is 20/20 and it's sad in this type of situation. I find it funny that the sentences I "initialed" that asked me about my mind set, medications, etc were even asked.. If you don't know your judgement is clouded and your mental state was off balanced until you're on medications that level out those chemicals then those ridiculous questions have no meaning, but to give leverage in court if needed. Period! Anyway... Have a nice night.
  9. Ladies Considering Adoption, I placed 5 weeks ago and I think #15 has a lot to do w/ my situation.. I was having marriage problems, pregnancy guilt, I had stopped taking my anti-depressant b/c of the pregnancy, I felt desperate and I believe if I was a little less clouded I would have kept my son. I started back on a low dose of anti-depressants 1 week prior to delivering him and now I have been on them for 2 months and my hormones have leveled off.. I have a sense of clarity now that I didn't have before. Some would say this is "mourning a loss" and it is a loss, but in my situation I believe I had an untreated medical condition that should have been treated before such a BIG decision was made. What I do about it now?? IDK! I hope this helps someone considering adoption and it may give them something to think about! Monica
  10. Oh, I was just wondering.. Aria had curly hair until Kinder so I thought maybe his was getting curly also! (:

  11. I had just given him a little bath and it is always a little extra crazy and fuzzy right after! :) Usually it looks pretty straight though!

  12. It is CUTE.. Is his hair getting curly or was it just all over the place? (:

  13. I put up Nico's one month photo from yesterday (the 21st) hope you enjoy :) The package of stickers is so cute... I'll be sure to get one on the 21st of each month!

  14. I love you Hannah!!

  15. And why this double posts everytime I say something I have NO idea...

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