Everything posted by MaryG
Hello Everyone, I am going to place my 3 year old son for adoption. I was wondering if there are any other birthmoms who have done the same and can give me some insight on placing a child. I would also like to hear from any adoptive parents who have adopted a toddler/preschooler for advice on the adjustment period for the child. I realize each situation is different as each child is different. I am need to alleviate some of my worries and fears. I want this adoption to be as easy of a transition as possible for all of us. Thank you, Mary
Hello Everyone, I met with Elizabeth and Ashley from Abrazo today. My husband, Son, and daughter were there as well. The luncheon was informative and interesting. Zachery was "good" as far as good goes for him. He seemed to take to Elizabeth easily. I am more comfortable with my decision to place him for adoption now. He will do fine as long as it is not with me. I do not understand why his behavior is the way it is. I just except it and deal with it. I know it will be difficult to "hand him over" to another family to parent after I have parented him for 3 years. However, my parenting techniques are not working. He just lives in my house in his room. I feel like he is more of a guest then my son. I don't know where I went wrong with him. My daughters are "normal" children and I treat them the same. Maybe he is just wired differently. Iam trying to feed my 2 month old a bottle as I type. I think I am more ready then I thought to do Zach's adoption. I think I just needed affirmation. I now feel more strongly I am doing this for all the right reasons. My 9 year old daughter told me today she understands why I am doing this. She wants to meet Elizabeth to satisfy her curiousity. She told me she will be alright with Zachery living some place else. I will be alright with it too. I kind of feel at peace with my decision. I hope this will work out for the best for all the persons involved.
Hello everyone, I am not a teenager, nor am I pregnant. I am placing my 3 year old son for adoption. I am over 35. I am going to meet with Abrazo today to explore this adoption more carefully. I have a heartwrenching decision to make. To be quite honest I have agonized over this for a year. This is not easy. I am not happy or excited about the idea. I have to do what is best for my son. I am distraught about how this will effect my 9 year old daughter. She loves her little brother unconditionally and how he is is all she knows. I explained the adoption the best way I could on a 9 year olds terms. I feel like my insides are being ripped out. My son @ the same time has disrupted and ruined many of her activities and simple things we take for granted she does everyday. I am not close to him and never will be. I just want to make sure my daughter knows she is not going to be adopted and my feelings for her are completely different. I love my son and always will because I am his birthmom. I am hoping to find him the right fit as far as a family. He deserves to have every advantage in life and so does the rest of our family. I am not taking this lightly. To be completely honest I am not sure what is best for my son. I just know I am not best for him. I do not have the tools to unwind his behavior and emotions to make this work. I also know adopyion is not the only option. Adoption is the best option for us. I do not want to just put him away somewhere. He is not an object. I do not want to bounce him around in the foster care system because I know what the foster care system is. I went to 9 high schools my freshman year. I know just how unpleasant this decision is. I love my son and his best interest is what I have @ heart.