WOAH!!! what are you thinking? seriously. WTF?
okay, i'm a birthmom and if i had decided not to place, and was responisible for the money my AF used to provide for me, i would have been trying to parent with NO money and a huge debt. and that would have made parenting even harder, so to not have to pay this money i would have had to place my child. I placed my son because i love him. Got that? because i love him not to avoid having to reimburse the hollmans. putting something like that in place would result in all sorts of placements to avoid repaying the money and thats not right. adoption isnt just about you wanting/getting a baby, to think it is is selfish. would placing a huge debt on the would have been placing birthmoms be in the best intrest of the child? No. most birthmoms dont have much money, which is why they need financal help in the first place. besides that counds like you want to BUY a baby. if you pay for something and you dont get it you want a refund?you aren't supposed to be buying a baby. youre supposed to help keep your birthmom fed and from living on the streets and make sure she can get medical care. and if she changes her mind thats her right.
infact, how about it works like this, if your birthmom decides not to place, you get your money reimbursed, but if she decides to place, she gets to be there when the baby says its first word, when the baby takes it first steps, when the baby tries to learn how to ride a bike, when the baby cries for its mom. i think the birthmoms lose a TON more than your money could ever pay for. but they decide to make that sacrifice.
your comment offended me so much.